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Posts: 16 · Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 5:27 am

Dear eye_of_tiger

I had written to you regarding my situation.
Could you please do a relationship reading for me.
I will be highly obliged.

Thanks,
Warm Regards,
Sun

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:04 am

Dear Sun,

As this relationship reading is based on confidential information you have given me through a private message, please let me know if I inadvertently include something here which you do not wish to appear on a public forum such as this one. If so, I will edit it out myself.

Unlike your fiancé's parents who seem to be the major source of all your problems, I am able to look beyond your disabilities and your physical body itself, and recognise that you are a loving and caring soul who would I feel teach these ignorant people much about the true nature of love, if they were only willing to listen.

There are certainly no problems with your young man himself, as he does not seem to be in any way disappointed to discover that after you both having had only a long distance relationship with each other in the past, he can obviously see that you are the woman he wants to share his hopes and dreams with. I do feel that you were intended to be together, but the big question which I cannot answer is as to whether or not he is assertive enough and financially independent enough to act against his parent's wishes.

It is my feeling that it is not your disability itself that concerns them most, but rather that it might be inherited by their grandchildren. Do you have any idea as to whether or not there is a genetic component to your disability which would make it more likely that your children would have a similar physical deformity to your own, as I believe that if they could be assured by a qualified medical practitioner that this would be most unlikely to occur, then they might very soon change their minds about you marrying their son?

As to your suggestion that I should use some form of magic with the intention of changing their minds, you are assuming powers which I do not possess, and even if I did there are serious negative consequences according to the Universal laws of interfering with any person's right of free will. Even if the people whose minds you are wanting to change are standing between you and the person you love dearly, the end never justifies the means.

Rather than trying to force yourself upon them, I would suggest that if your young man is not able to stand up against and go against the wishes of his parents, that you should forget about getting married for the moment and simply allow them to get to know you better. I feel that just as I recognise that within your deformed body (which is neither you or your own parents fault and did not happen merely by coincidence - suggesting that it has a teaching purpose for all people concerned) is a shining soul whom any man in his right would be foolish to lose from his life, they in time will realise the same thing. If you can also in some way assure them that your deformity has no genetic component, I sense that they will be far more likely to put their stamp approval on your marriage to their son.

Unfortunately your boyfriend is being manipulated and frankly blackmailed by both his parents into making him toe the line, and while he is still living under their roof and works with his father and is unwilling to give up the expensive lifestyle he has enjoyed up until now, while I do not feel that things are impossible, I do believe that you have a major battle ahead of you in convincing them otherwise.

If they are so intolerant and lacking in compassion both for you and for what their son most wants in his life, perhaps it is time for your young man to decide that he must begin making his own decisions independent of those of his parents, and leave both his job and their home. He (your ex fiancé) will always remain the biggest unknown factor in any equation, as to read his personality in any more detail I would need to offer you a third party reading which is not permitted on this site. I have no more power to change his mind than I have to change the attitudes of his parents. In the end I feel that he will be forced to make a final decision between continuing to enjoy a fairly comfortable life under the total control of his parents, or whether he will decide to stand up for his own rights and leave them for good to be with the woman I do feel he loves so much.

If I felt that he himself was having second thoughts about wanting to marry you (which I definitely do not), I would not be making these suggestions to you now. To do so under such circumstances would be a waste of our time and efforts, because his decision would have already been made. But this is not I feel the case with regard to wanting you to be the mother of his children, and I sincerely hope that reason and love will eventually prevail. Is there any chance that even though you say you have already broken up that you would either be accepted back into their lives not immediately as a future daughter in law, or that your ex would be willing to leave his personal comfort zone and his relatively affluent lifestyle to be the man that he should and marry you anyway?

No wonder then that you are suffering from rapid mood swings and feel so confused and hurt by what has happened. You know within yourself that he loves you in his own way, but his parents are stubbornly standing their ground and denying their own son of the right to be an independent adult.No this is definitely not fair on either yourself or him, but the sad fact is that nobody ever said that life was always meant to be fair. Fair to who? If your ex cannot or does not want to break away from his parents and be a man you could respect and look up to as a partner, then I am sorry to say that I feel you should in time learn to get over him and look instead for some other man who is both able and willing to give you the type of lasting love you so richly deserve. It is certainly not going to be easy for you to do this, but the alternative might be that you will spend the rest of your life waiting for something which may never happen.

God Bless,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 16 · Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 2:41 pm

Many Thanks for the reading eye_of_tiger,

Its true that my ex fiancé is facing a similar rough time as I am. When I spoke with him on the phone a couple of days back, I could feel the pain in his voice but what really frustrates me to no end is the fact that he has given up. He is sad about how things turned out but he is not convinced if talking to parents will make a difference. In the past couple of months he discussed ‘us’ with them a number of times with no positive response but only a threat to be thrown out of the house. I think all this has left him rather disappointed and that is why he needs time to think whether we should make another effort or not.

I met his parents just once and though the experience was not unpleasant I doubt if they’d want to see me again as they have asked their son not to keep in touch. So no hopes in that area. The irony is that they themselves had a love marriage but are not allowing their son to choose his life partner.

I have checked up with the best orthopedic surgeon in my country and he said this deformity will not pass on to my children. My boyfriend informed them about this but their answer still remained no. For them their reputation in the business fraternity holds more importance. Though I don’t understand how their son’s wedding with me will affect it but they have their own reasons. As I explained to you in the PM about questions like what people will say etc.

We did break up because of the mounting pressure on both of us. I was impatient that things were not moving forward and he was asking for solutions to the problem, which I did not have. So in a rash moment I pronounced the relationship over.
However, in the last 2 months or so I still have not been able to find the peace I though I would attain once I was on my own. Rather, I felt more pathetic and lonely. When I called him a couple of days back after a gap of 2 months, we were thinking about old happier times and I mentioned how I would trade anything to be back with him. That is when he said he needs time to think whether we should get back and fight again or not, as he has already hurt me a lot and would not want me to go through what we went through when we bent down under the pressure and broke up. Also he is not sure whether another round of effort will convince his parents.

Its really not possible to leave a 7 year old relationship behind and move on to something new as that was a major part of my being and I feel so incomplete. No matter how practical your advise is its really very difficult to even consider it as an idea.

But right now the immediate need is for him to say yes for another try as life is already pathetic and there is possibly nothing that could make it worse. Maybe a second inning could change everything.

you said you would not be able to give a 3rd party reading. If i were to convince my ex to join the forums, would you give a reading then?

I met a famous Tarot reader in person yesterday. She said there is an evil eye on my family since the past 3 years and it is blocking progress of my family in all fields. Could this be a reason? Why else would a flourishing relationship die out like this when the end was so close? What do you think? Is there a remedy? Should I do something about it? I dont even know whether evil eyes exist....who would know about this better than yourself?

Please let me know if getting rid of the evil eye(if such a thing exists) make a difference? will the blockages open up?

Thanks and regards,
Sun

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 12:01 am

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Its really not possible to leave a 7 year old relationship behind and move on to something new as that was a major part of my being and I feel so incomplete.

Although I do not wish to appear totally insensitive to your obvious pain, I do believe that with assistance it is not impossible to leave a 7 year old relationship behind you and move on to something new and hopefully better.

It will not be easy and it will be a gradual process of letting him go both in your mind and your heart. If it was indeed impossible to do this, how do you explain that many other people for various reasons have been forced to do this and much more for the sake of their own happiness and sanity? Do you think that they have some self healing ability that you do not also possess?

With due respect it would not then be so much your physical deformity that was holding you back from continuing to live your life with both faith and courage, but it would be your mistaken belief in your "evil eye". I fear as your friend that if you will not at the same time let go of your belief that you have an evil eye and that therefore no man would ever want you to be the mother of his children (when as you say there is no genetic, inherited component with this condition), then you are by so doing creating a self fulfilling prophecy by attracting exactly the opposite type of man from whom you are really looking for.

I would go so far as to suggest that if you already had such a belief when you first met your now ex seven years ago, that it could be a very big part of the reason why you attracted a man who through no fault of your own has I feel major issues in not being able to either think or live independently of his own parents. I am deeply saddened to hear that things did not work out between you, but I am equally saddened as your close friend to hear that you presently believe that gradually learning to let go of this man would be absolutely impossible.

Loving regards,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 16 · Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 3:48 am

''With due respect it would not then be so much your physical deformity that was holding you back from continuing to live your life with both faith and courage, but it would be your mistaken belief in your "evil eye". I fear as your friend that if you will not at the same time let go of your belief that you have an evil eye and that therefore no man would ever want you to be the mother of his children (when as you say there is no genetic, inherited component with this condition), then you are by so doing creating a self fulfilling prophecy by attracting exactly the opposite type of man from whom you are really looking for.

I would go so far as to suggest that if you already had such a belief when you first met your now ex seven years ago, that it could be a very big part of the reason why you attracted a man who through no fault of your own has I feel major issues in not being able to either think or live independently of his own parents. ''

Dear eye_of_tiger,

I did not fully understand the above.
I was not aware of the 'evil eye' till 2 days back when the Tarot Reader told me about it. She said that a cunning lady who happens to be a part of our extended family has an evil eye on my family and that is what is blocking things.
My question is: does evil eye exist? evil eye=black magic; that someone has cast on my family - we hear about magic all the time but then I as a layman has no proof that people can do it on others to spoil their lives. If someone has really cast an evil spell then I better try and get rid of it, right?

Thanks and regards
Sun