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Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 7:22 pm

Dear All,

Please can you advise me on my current marriage and future life? I married late and left my life abroad to marry an Indian in a joint family ( I am of Indian origin raised in the West). We have a child. My life is not a happy one since I feel dominated most of the time.

Will we always live in India or will we move? If so, when and where? Will our marriage improve? How can I assist the improvement?

Thanks

Posts: 49 · Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 9:30 pm

Sheila,

Yours is a complex situation, one for which all simplistic answers must be rejected. At the heart of your question lies the welfare of a marriage and child. These are commitments that require you to reach far down into your reserve of strength when times grow to be as difficult as they are. First and foremost you must do nothing until your head and heart align. The questions that you raise in the context of this forum are among the most serious that you will face in life.

As I began to read for you I received two images, the image of an Eskimo home, an igloo, and the image of a large gold empty bowl. In the first image I saw the igloo house of ice set in as desolate a place as it could be. The sky was bright blue and cold above and behind it. Although it sparkled in the sunlight like a jewel I felt that, as I stood facing it, I was standing in the most inhospitable and uninhabitable place that I could be. Is this what you are feeling about your life in India today? Despite being surrounded by a husband, a child, and many others are you feeling desolate, desperate, and alone? I sense that the image of the bowl depicts your life as a nurturer and caregiver. The bowl was large, gold, solid, and capable. However, it was empty. It had given everything. There was simply nothing left inside to give.

Sheila, let me begin by saying that, as tempting as it may be, this is not the time to shirk responsibility. As difficult as this must be for you, this is none the less the time to remember the love that drew you to your husband and your child from the start. As lonely and as desolate a place as India must be for you, your love for them is no less a part of you. It is India you want to leave not them!

The questions that you raise in this forum are questions that are best addressed in the context of your home. No reader on this board can guarantee precisely what will happen. Your future is of your making and there are two other very significant persons who share your future and your life! They need to be considered. They need to be consulted. Do so and remember for the moment that at heart it is India you want to leave not them!

Hope this helps.

Grayson

Posts: 5 · Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 1:10 am

Thank you Grayson - you are correct about how I feel. I think my relationship has a better chance if my husband and I leave India but I do not think he will do that easily, since his parents, friends, job are all there. I also feel that since we do not have a good relationship based on freedom of expression (he can not even discuss anything with anyone who has a different viewpoint, without temper), it has made me dislike living here in India.

I have no immediate family but do have friends but they cannot help me.

Can you see any positive changes for me in the near future?

Posts: 5118 · Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 8:04 am

Sheilaji,

Coming from the West and living now in India will definitely demand you to change yourself completely. Here you will see everywhere Pollution -- noise, air and what not. Roads are bad and population bursting in many cities. All this has had more effect on all of us and we in India have got used to it but for you it will be very difficult.

Cheer up. A person who fights and does not give will always succeed. Whatever was written by Grayson is correct but I do see a bright ray of hope 4/6 months from now. Again you will only change yourself and find a way out and then you will find that brightness in your life which will come gradually and not suddenly.

Once you get used to life over here and find other ways to adjust yourself to the present situation you will find it easier. Your Husband not likely to go abroad for at least 2 years. Maybe he may go after that if there is a job change and that too on work.

Pravin Kumar

Posts: 5 · Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 2:19 pm

Thank you Pravin - it is good to hear that there will be some positive change.

My marriage began on a bad note since my husband wanted to marry someone else and she was not interested. I got him on the "rebound". I was obviously very impulsive and did not realise the impact of marrying in a traditional dominating family; I did not know there would be so much intereference from his large family and some friends. When I had my son, it was terrible and I am glad he is older now. But what is so sad is that my husband rarely supports me and we seem to have different viewpoints. Sometimes,we have a few good times, when we are alone, but I prefer to avoid as much as possible contact and have resisted all physical contact for 2.5 years after the child was born. As you can see, things are in bad shape.

I am enjoying the friends I have made here and the spiritual aspects of life here in India. I think the main problem is that:

1 - My husband's work is not going well - (are there any indications of increase in work for him)?

2 - Over-interference by some family members especially (but not all) regarding my son

3 - Crushing dominance and bad temper of my husband

Any further advice is welcome.

4 - I have a great fear of the irresponsibilty of my in-laws and husband regarding my child - My son has only started school so I have not been able to get work. I am very scared to leave my child with elderly in laws and husband since a few days ago, my son took my husband's medicine and had to go to hospital