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Posts: 130 · Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 5:47 pm

Hello , can I please have a reading on my love life ?I'd like to know if there is any love interest around me currently . I am single . I really want to find the "one" for me and if nothing happens soon , I know I might just give up . Thanks in advance . I'll gladly post feedback .

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 11:46 pm

My feelings are that you are limiting yourself by looking for the one man for you, as this immediately suggests that there is only one man with whom you will ever be happy (and if you never find him you are therefore destined to be miserable for the rest of your life), when the fact of the matter is that you are more likely looking for a man with a particular personality type according to your own likes and dislikes. Although you may be comparing yourself with your friends and wondering why you alone still remain single at your stage in life, to give up on ever finding love and romance is to also give up on the possibilities of eventually finding it.

Effectively you would then be programming your subconscious mind to accept that true love will never find you, and you will accordingly withdraw into yourself as you will probably find it even more painful to watch your friends with their own partners. This would I feel be a terribly backward step to take when you already have so much going for you, and the right type of man (not one man) would sadly be missing out on getting to know you better. Do you really want this to happen? I do recognise that you are only saying this because you feel so disillusioned and lonely without a man in your life, but our minds take everything we say quite literally (word for word) and cannot decide whether or not what we believe what we are telling ourselves. Even words said in hfrustration have a great power to change your life for the better or the worse?

I would also like to remind you to be careful of what you wish for, as it might just come true. You may find that although your friends appear to be blessed to have their own partners and that their lives together may appear to be going smoothly on the surface, deep down they have many of the same problems you have. They have their own unique life paths to walk, and just because your's is different from theirs relationship wise, does this mean that they are doing everything right and you are therefore doing everything wrong, especially with reference to finding your man?

On the basis of this reading I feel that while there will be several opportunities for love and romance to come into your life during the next twelve months, that you will need to get what you expect from such a relationship clearer in your own mind than it presently is in order to significantly increase your chances of him being the right type for you. You also need to make a list of what you are unwilling to accept and live with on a daily basis, and then not continue to go to places where you would expect to meet such a person. For example if you could not live with a man who drinks heavily and/or is an alcoholic, do not go to find your man in hotel bars.

What I am saying here is that there is still quite a lot you can do (while still single) on a practical level while you are waiting for these romantic opportunities to present themselves. You are not destined to forever be the unwilling victim of some cosmic love lottery. By doing anything you can to increase your own feelings of self esteem, you will then attract a very different type of man from those you would have in the past. One whom will value and respect you for being the wonderful and caring young woman you already are, and not one who will try to change you into someone other than your true self. Do not fall into the the common trap of believing that you are only half a person, unless you can somehow find your other half in a man. Two half people will never make for a happy long term relationship. If you do not already value and respect yourself as a total individual (in other words practise more self love), then why would you expect any man in his right mind to disagree with you?

Although I am not making any predictions here one way or the other, I hope that I have offered you further food for thought concerning how you could potentially turn the wheel of love fortune much more in your favour than it currently appears to be turning.

Love, Light and Peace to you and your family,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 130 · Posted: Sun Oct 28, 2007 5:32 am

Thanks so much for the reading eye_of_tiger

You are absolutely right . I am indeed looking for someone with a particular personality type . I have attracted the wrong type in the past and I don't want to repeat the same mistake again . I don't want to have to change myself to please anyone . I still need to practise more self-love as I know I still don't value myself enough ,perhaps . It's just that at this age , I would have hoped to have already found my life partner . So I do wonder if there's something wrong with me . I have friends who have already found their life partner and I consider them lucky, indeed . It's hard to constantly be on the search for love . I'll certainly increase my feelings of self-esteem and focus less on finding love . If it has to happen it will . Otherwise I'll have to learn to be happy by myself .

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 12:43 am

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I don't want to have to change myself to please anyone .

All close relationships will require either partner to make certain changes, and to often reach a mutually satisfying compromise. The trick is to make changes which in the process do not cause you to lose your true identity.

The need to make adjustments and changes is inevitable (and if we are unwilling to change, then life has it's own methods of forcing us to), but as long as we do not need to be someone whom we simply are not and we do not lose the many positive aspects of our personality along the way, we must continue to have faith that these changes will be for the better in the long run.

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I have attracted the wrong type in the past and I don't want to repeat the same mistake again .

We are all meant to learn from what we perceive as our own mistakes, but if as a result of attracting the wrong type of man for you, you have somehow learnt that there is something basically wrong with you when compared to your friends (who themselves probably have their own problems), this sort of thinking will lock you into a cycle of repeated failures. While you are far from being perfect (join the human race) and you have made mistakes like the rest of us, you also have many wonderful personal qualities which the right type of man for you would find irresistibly attractive. There is nothing wrong with you, as such. It is merely that you have not yet learnt how best to attract the right type of man. This was my main reason for giving you a reading (to help you to attract the right type of man for you sooner, rather than considerably later). While we must all learn to accept that we have weaknesses in our own personalities, do not build them up into being something much more serious than they already are. At the same time we need to build upon and emphasise our many personal strengths, and the loving and caring aspects of our personalities which we definitely do not wish to change for anybody's sake.

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It's hard to constantly be on the search for love.

Which is why I often remind people that forming and maintaining close relationships with others frequently involves us learning some of the most challenging and frustrating lessons which any of us could be expected to learn as both spiritual and human beings.

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It's just that at this age , I would have hoped to have already found my life partner .

You have fallen into the common trap of comparing yourself with your friends. I did not find and marry my life partner until I was 26 (she was 27). By my calculations you still have two to three years to go until you get to match us as being late developers with regard to matters of the heart.

This was not because there was anything wrong with me, but it was simply because I had a full teaching load as a high school teach and my social life was non existent, as I was always studying. I was really too busy up until then to even think about finding a partner. I changed my ways of thinking, and so will you (with our help and support).

I feel it is my great privilege to get to know you better, and thanking you sincerely for giving me this opportunity to help you by offering you a reading. I am certainly not giving up on you for being anything like a hopeless case, so please do not abuse my new friend aka yourself by thinking in this manner.

Loving regards,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 130 · Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 2:47 pm

Hi, thanks a lot for your reply . I was not expecting it . There are so many words of wisdom in there and I don't know how you do it but you have really understood/pointed out what my insercurities are ...

I do realise I'll need to compromise when I get into a relatioship . If they are positive changes that are for the best , I will make them . But it's true that as you have correctly said , I don't want to lose my true identity .

I have made mistakes in the past and I've learnt a lot despite all the hurt it caused . I think I don't know what the right type of them for me would be , or what I think is right for me may not be what I need . I need to figure this out .

I used to think I don't need love to survive or be happy . But I was wrong . I cannot banish love from my life . This would be a huge mistake . I agree with you . Maintaining relationships is a huge challenge . It may bring the best in you or even the worst in certain cases . The key is to find the balance . I would love a relationship which enables me to grow as a person .

I have quite a lot going in my life like work and some hobbies . I could keep myself so busy so that there won't be any time to find love . But by doing that I would be lying to myself and running away . So I need to continue focusing on this .

I am lucky to get so many good advices that are opening my eyes and I hope it changes my way of thinking and adds to my self-esteem .

Everytime I feel like giving up or I'm a bit down , I'll re-read this !

Thanks again for your time .

Kindest regards,
Jlo