Reading on my marriage please, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:23 pm

We were married September 26th 1998 so we just had our 9 year anniversary. We've been together ever since. We've never had a break up in our almost 13 years together. We have two beautiful young children ages 6 and 3.

My (Kelly) dob is Aug. 22nd. I'm 29.
His (Josh) is April 11th. He is 5 years older than me.

We have the normal marriage arguments. Mainly it's just on communicating with each other. (for example...I didn't mean it like that stuff)

Something happened this past week on the 18th that has made me suspect infedelity. I would so greatly appreciate any feedback that you can give. (good or bad)

If you get anything else that's not marriage related and you would like to share I'm fine with that.

I will happily give you feedback on your readings.

Thank You!

Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 9:47 pm

Anyone?? I'll be happy to return the favor if I can.

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:40 am

Hi Kelly,

Could I please remind you that readings given on these forums are generously donated by volunteers, and it is therefore I feel unreasonable to expect a response within the first 24 hours?

Having said this I am certainly not wishing to minimise what is obviously a matter of great concern to you with regard to the possible marital infidelity of your husband. Anything which comes up in a psychic reading would not be admissible in any court of law I know as evidence, so while I would be pleased to pass on any relevant insights I receive to you, I would advise you to have some strong physical evidence of his wanderings before making accusations which could not only make you appear foolish if they do turn out to have no basis in reality, and possibly leave you seriously out of pocket with the legal costs involved.

As you have already said, every marriage has it's conflicts and arguments, and if every married man (including myself) who has ever felt desire for another woman but did not take any action to satisfy that desire was taken to court, then there would I feel be no time left over for anything else. But you are suggesting that an actual event has occurred during the last week which you feel only confirms what you may have suspected for some considerable time before this.

Your past suspicions could simply be a symptom of your own insecurity within your marriage (you think that other women would find Josh as attractive to them as you do), but my feelings on the basis of this reading are that unless you have some very damning evidence that he has strayed, then he would be very unlikely to jeopardise his 13 year marriage and risk losing both you and his children by doing anything so silly as you have implied here.

No I am not completely convinced that Josh has not experienced a temporary lapse of judgement and that he is somehow above being tempted to be unfaithful towards you as his plover and his wife (he is human and therefore makes mistakes at times just as the rest of us do), but the question arises as to whether or not if it did turn out that he had been unfaithful to you at least on one occasion (and there is no suggestion in this reading that he has done this), whether or not you would be willing to forgive him if he showed that he was genuinely sorry and he remained faithful to you in both his thoughts and actions from then on. In other words in the end it comes down to just how much you trust Josh to either do the right thing by you and your children by staying faithful, or if he did make a minor slip would he be then willing to clean up his behaviour and admit that he had failed to obey his marriage vows.

Unfortunately I can see no way around this other than for you to confront Josh with the evidence that you say you have obtained over the last week, but to do so in a non threatening manner, as if you simply bowl ahead and accuse him outright without giving him the right to respond, I feel that your relationship will soon be over anyway, regardless of whether or not he is actually guilty of infidelity.

My feelings are that you will discover that you have made some false assumptions and that you have been trying to be a mind reader instead of communicating your insecurities and concerns in an open and honest manner to Josh (as you do say that you have both had more than your fair share of communication problems in the past 13 years), and the increasing level of mistrust that has developed as a result has gradually eaten away at the foundation of your marriage itself. Not getting the facts straight from the Josh's mouth and attempting to read his mind instead, has probably got you to this point in your marriage where any even a vague hint that he has been unfaithful will be seen as being instantly highly incriminating.

Now your constant need to try to read Josh's mind instead of voicing your concerns is not entirely your fault. I sense that Josh must accept a certain degree of responsibility for this. He does frequently tend to bottle his feelings up and prefer to skirt around an issue, rather than coming straight out and saying what he thinks or feels. Another way of expressing this is that honest communication between marriage partners must always be a two way process.

Although Josh might actually be guilty of what you suspect (I really cannot say), he has possibly got into a habit of concealing part of the truth from you and in acting as if he were guilty, when in most cases he is not. He appears to give the impression to everyone including yourself that he is always up to something wrong for which he feels suitably guilty, when the facts of the matter are that this is rarely if ever the case.

His tendency to withdraw into himself and not to express his true feelings has to a great degree contributed to this communication breakdown, and it is my opinion that only by you both being willing to work co-operatively together in order to correct this underlying problem in your marriage, that it will continue beyond the next 12 months or so. Again I am saying that unless you start effectively communicating with each other, whether or not Josh has been unfaithful to you will not matter very much in the end.

Especially since there are two beautiful children involved my feelings are that even if Josh has been unfaithful to you once, there is every reason to remain hopeful that your trust can once again be earnt, and that not only will you remain together as a loving family, but also that your marriage will be even stronger as a result of having successfully weathered this storm.

By all means if you do feel that you need to consult a marriage or relationship counsellor to try to help you both to work through these communication issues, please do not hesitate to do so. I feel that you owe it to both each other and to your children to at least give it another good try, whether or not Josh has been unfaithful to you this time.

Sorry that I cannot say one way or the other whether Josh has been unfaithful, but I do feel that the underlying communication problems are significantly contributing to whatever other problems you are currently experiencing.

Love, Light and Healing,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 5 · Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 12:50 pm

Thank you for your reading. I appreciate you taking your time to do this for me.

The most he's ever done to make me distrust him was lie to me about starting back smoking after he had quit for years. So I've never suspected him cheating before in our 13 years together.

I'm guessing since you're psychic and married as well you can relate to knowing things about your spouse that you normally wouldn't know. That's how it is with me. I actually had a dream about him smoking when he was hiding it from me and I myself was getting very strong urges to smoke which is totally out of character for me. That is what made me confront him about that. And after him lying initially, the truth came out.

There's many other things that I just know regarding him that just comes to me. I feel that it does sometimes hurt our relationship because I know his motive behind things he says etc. but he'll deny it. It's hard for me to ignore things when it just comes to me although I know I'm not always right. I hope this makes some sense??

Last week I didn't have a dream or see anything at all. There was just something that I could not explain and I didn't ask him about it. (which I don't even know if I should have)

I didn't want to give too much information about it so it wouldn't affect any other readings I may get.

Thanks again eye_of_tiger!!!!!

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 3:02 am

Many people do not realise that being psychic does not mean that we are mind readers. Yes we often do receive information about our partners or spouses which others cannot access by any other non psychic means, but it is possible that while you have been together at least for 13 years that some of these impressions simply come from your own subconscious mind. They may be purely expressions of your ongoing doubts about him giving up his cancer sticks for good, but this could hardly be placed on the same level as subconscious doubts that he is no longer faithful to you, when there has been no evidence of him doing anything wrong in this way during the previous years.

I still believe that although there is a remote chance that he has recently strayed and I sense a much greater chance that he has given in to his nicotine addiction on more than one occasion, many if not all of your current feelings that he has cheated on you have little basis in reality, and are therefore more likely to be interpreted as a sign of your own insecurities within your relationship with him. He has a typically obsessive/addictive personality with regard to many aspects of his life (including his strong love for you), but a womaniser he is definitely not.

With due respect you appear to be somehow disappointed in yourself for not experiencing either a dream or waking vision all last week that did not reveal to you some truth he was meant to be hiding from you. It is as though you are almost expecting such a revelation about his failure to beat the smoking habit in your weekly dreams, so that you can then say to him "I told you so". In this case just as no news is often good news, no dreams of failure or infidelity over a week may be similarly good news with regards to your relationship (and your ability to trust him to do the right thing under most circumstances).

L&L,

eye_of_tiger