Reading Request on love, finace and Pourpose., Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 44 · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 4:18 am

Hi My Name Is Carmalita, I am A Female Born 9-6-88, Not So Much a True VIrgo I Think But I take More To My Rising Sign Aqarius And My Moon Sign Cancer.
I Would Like To Request A Reading Regaurding LOve, Pourpose, And Finace.
I Really Have A Focus On My Love Being That My Natal chart Says That I Am Incomplete With Out It, and I agree Cause I AM the Saddest When I Am Without a Companion, I wonder WHy This Is??? ANd I Also WOnder If This Is SO Far Proving To Be True , Why Have I always Loved More THan Been Loved In Every Part Of My Life From Friendship, To Relationship.
I will Greatly appreciate Any feed back any one could give, If Its Just Simple Words Of Wisdom,(Which I thrive On) Or A Personal Reading.
~Karma
Oh Yes I Also Forgot To Mention That Most Of The Men I Date Are Up To 8 Years Older than Me In Most Cases I have Been Out On My Own For Years, And All Threw My Life I have Had A Better Connection With People Much older than My Self.
Hopes This Helps More.
~Karma

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 1:44 am

Dear Carmalita,

I will try to keep this reading as simple as I am able to, as I see that English may not be your first language. I can understand what you have written here, and would be pleased to read for you. If the words of wisdom are given to me to pass on to you, I will do my very best to do so.

To love another person and to be loved in return, is I believe one of our greatest spiritual needs as a human being. You do not therefore need someone to draw up your natal chart to tell you what should be obvious to anybody who has ever fallen deeply in love.

The path to true love is rarely an easy one, and too many of us are willing to settle for something less, simply because we often do not feel that we deserve anything better.

The fact that you are attracted to men who are eight years or more older than you are suggests to me that you recognise that men of a similar age group to yourself lack the maturity that you are looking for.

Also in a way, having a relationship with a man of 27 in preference to one with a 19 year old is probably going to also give you a greater feeling of security in that he is often more willing to want to settle down and start a family of his own at that age.

But although the difference between your ages is not that great by commonly accepted standards, there is still unfortunately a strong social pressure put upon such couples in order to make them feel that it is wrong for them to feel this way towards each other.

I do not agree with any of this discrimination based only on age, but it is a sad fact of our so called civilised society, and you therefore both need to be prepared for receiving some criticism (including from those well meaning people who are close to you, and who only wish to protect you from getting your feelings hurt).

There is also the added complication that a man of 27 may already be in a relationship of his own, or may have just come out of one, so be careful what you wish for or you may live to regret it.

You say that you are perhaps the saddest woman in the world when you are without a male companion, but if you are only going into the relationship because you believe deep within yourself that without a man you are only half a person, then with due respect I feel that you have very little basis or foundation on which to build one.

In other words, I do not feel that by entering upon such a relationship you are necessarily now going to feel a complete woman.

I believe instead that you will need to feel reasonably complete (there will always be opportunities for improvement later)and confident within yourself first, BEFORE going into another relationship with another older man (as you mentioned that you have already dated several men approximately 8 years older than you are). You appear to be putting your love cart ahead of your horse?

My overall advice on the basis of this intuitive reading is to try to get your own feelings and self confidence more in order first, before immediately going from one relationship into another, and discovering all too late that it is much the same as all your earlier ones (which have basically ended with nothing but unhappiness, and may have left you wondering if there is something wrong with you).

Do anything within reason to increase your own feelings of self respect and self esteem, and begin to recognise that you are a loving and generous woman who would be an ideal partner for the right type of man for YOU. I do not feel that it was because there was something wrong with you that you have experienced a series of broken or failed relationships with these older men.

I feel instead that because you do not yet believe enough that you are already a complete person with or without a man, and you could unintentionally be attracting the wrong type of man, one after the other. If you believe that you are not fully complete without him and that you do not deserve any better than the disrespectful way these men have been treating you, you are unconsciously sending out signals to other men who will treat you exactly the same way.

I am not going to be so cruel as to predict one way or the other whether or not you will begin another relationship with an older man within the next six months or so, as whether or not this would be a good idea is now mainly left up to you to decide.

Another way of saying this is that I hope that once you have done adequate work towards beginning to realise that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and that a man could do much worse in finding a complete woman to love and be loved by than you, that you will soon find love and happiness in the arms of a man who loves and respects you as you already are, and not want you to become someone other than your true Self.

I know that there is a lot to read and think about here, so please take as long as you need to respond, and also ask any questions you need to about what was in your reading, in your next posting.

There is a right type of man out there for you. Your task as I see it is to do whatever you can to set your own emotional house in order first, which will then make you totally unattractive to the wrong sort of man for you, and only attract the best ones in the future.

Hoping this has helped at least in some small way to convince you that there is still ever reason to hope that you will eventually find a soul mate (as you are only yourself still 19),

Love, Light and Peace to you and your family,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 44 · Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 1:38 am

FIrst Off I just want to thank you for taking the time out and doing a reading for ME. It was a ALL OVER WELL DONE READING. I Feel content and you have given me alot to meditate on.
E-O-T, lol English IS my first language I just can't type very well. LOL
I want to say that the social pressure is a worriment when it comes to dateing older men. Many People Tend To think I am 21,22 ,when they approch me. It's not untill i tell people my age that I get those questioning looks. It is not so much that i find older men more mature or more stable than guys my own age. It's Just that for some reason those are the only men I am ever appoched by. Guys my age NEVER give me the time of day, and for some reason I am never takin serious.

One Of The arising conflicts that i do have with older men is that, They are like you said either in a relationship of their own or they have just gotten out of a really long one. I Never Put Out any pressure to be serious to quick, but every relationship ends the same. Like a sudden break off, no goodbyes, noo Fights, no distinct problem. Its like your sitting in a room everythings going, and somebody just cuts the power off, leavng you in the dark.

It's Not So Much that I feel like im the saddest women in the world without a boyfreind, but more that I feel like somethings missing. I do feel that I put my cart in front of my horse at times. I guess that is do to my life style, wich will all be Dramtically Altered soon. I belive this change will give me time to work on my self, my confidence and my character.

E-O-T, I know that I am Only 19 , and That Some One is out there for me, but I caint help it, Im Such a ROMANTIC.

Lol
THank You So Much Once again, Bless You!!!
~Karma

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2007 2:08 am

Sorry about the misunderstanding concerning your preferred language, but I have run into difficulties with such communication problems in the past (where English was the member's second or third language), and I therefore decided to play it safe in your case. No offence was of course ever intended.

And this is from a one finger typist himself, mind you!

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It's Just that for some reason those are the only men I am ever appoched by. Guys my age NEVER give me the time of day, and for some reason I am never takin serious.

I am rather hesitant in making such a generalised statement, but men of the same age as yourself are not on the average as mature as you are, nor are they often looking for exactly the same things in life as you are at their stage of life (security and commitment).

A 19 year old woman could therefore seem threatening and intimidating to a man of the same age, not because there is anything wrong with you as such, but more likely because they are not prepared to change their lifestyle to better suit you. If you appear to them as though you are up to 3 years older than you really are, what I have just said applies even more than if they had judged your age correctly.

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It's Not So Much that I feel like im the saddest women in the world without a boyfreind, but more that I feel like somethings missing.

And that something vital which is missing is to feel that you are loved for being the wonderful and generous woman you are, rather than fitting their image of what a 19 - 22 year old woman should be.

I can quite understand how them repeatedly pulling the plug on your relationship without even an explanation would make you feel as though something is wrong with you (there isn't), but it is I feel that their expectations of what loving you would be like, based on what has already happened to them within previous relationships, is mainly at fault here instead.

Also when having just left a failed relationship (even if it was not entirely their fault and they were not the one who walked out), they are as a result terribly confused about just what they want. Any further stress about what loving you may be like will only add to their own feelings of utter confusion?

Hoping this makes my intended meanings that much clearer,

Your's faithfully,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 44 · Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2007 2:43 am

E-O-T,
How Are You??
Thank You Sooo Much for the Clarity Of Those Points. I espacilly took to what you said about them Pulling the plug on the relationship Not having anything to do with me at all. I have never really thght about it that way, or what was being expected of me in the first place. Never thinking about what troubles another person may have and how that can at times end a relationship without anything being actually wrong.
Once agin thank you so much for this Inlighting Reading.
Your Friend,
Karma