hello all,

Im so hurt at the moment, dont know what to start with... well, my boyfriend and I are from different countries, Im from Georgia and hes from the states. we met here in Georgia when he worked here, then almost a year ago he had to go back to the states but we both believed  long distance relationship was not a problem if true feeleings were concerned, we kept in touch, he was planning on coming back here and  marrying me and everything was fine. about a week ago I learned from our common friend he was going to be sent to Iraq for a year... I texted him and said we needed to talk. well, he replyed "its not gonna work (our relationship that is), I cant come back, u need to find yourself someone else, Im sorry" I asked him if he got himself a new girlfriend? he said "yes". I pretty much doubt thats true.. I just think he feels guily for making me waste one more year of my life waiting for him and thinks its better for me not do so and thats why he told me so... but thats just my opinion.
I know there are some realy good psychics on this site so maybe you could tell me how our relationship will evolve? shall I be with him at all? are we meant for each other? if you feel like we are not, I`ll get over it, Ive been there once and I know its not the end of the worl. any kind of help is appreciated.

Im really so sorry for having to bother you like this but I love him so much and Im so hurtirng...

thank you very much for taking a time to read this,

blessings
Ani

Ani,
   
        I am sorry to hear about the hurt that you are going through... I think that you should call him and tell him that you don't want it to be the end forever, and that If he doesn't want to have the guilt of you waiting on him on his shoulders then perhaps you two could talk about seeing other people and then when he is free from his obligations, see if there is still something there.... I think that talking it out with him will clear up a lot of the fog that is making it hard to see the shore.... Let him know that you don't want him out of your life, even if it means that you are only friends... I feel like you are supposed to have him in your life and that he is a major player in it but I can't get if it is romantic or not... Perhaps it is that  it is not a stable thing.... SOmetimes the choices we make change our destinies. Anyways if there is more please feel free to let me know.... Best of luck and remember that CLEAR Communication is more important that anything that a stranger has to say about the both of you.

                   Nyte

thank you so much for the reply Nyte,

well thats exactly what I wanted to do, I tryed to call him and tell him how I felt and if it was really just a feeling of guilt for making me wait so long, that I was ready to wait, its not a problem for me... but he doesnt pick up and it drives me crazy... is he that confused or what?? ofcourse I can write it in an email, but I want to tell it to him personally, if I hear his voice I would get a clearer picture of what he feels.. :((

Try giving him a few days, or leaving a voice mail telling him that you want to talk about being able to still be friends and that you will respect his decision. I think that he does feel very guilty about leading you on and hurting you... no matter what the truth maybe.

Hi, Ani!

I'm terribly sorry about what you're going through.

I'm certain that your instincts are correct here, Ani. He certainly feels guilt for the length of time that you've been waiting for him.  Although I sense there may be an opportunity in the future for you to reconnect, I feel as though you were meant to let him go for now.  Doing this successfully may insure that if there is another possibility in the future for you to reunite, it will be clean and pure.  Meaning, wiping the slate clean here is key so that any future love connection you have with him will not be burdened with baggage, whether you or he feels like there is baggage being created at the moment or not.

On a side note, I'm sensing what he's going through right now is not easy for him.  Unfortunately, it's a path he's chosen to go without your aid.
When he is ready, he will come to you, Ani.
You hold a special place in his heart and always will.
But for now, you need to let him go as his path at the moment is one to be traveled without you.

Much Love to you, with blessings.

Indigo Girl