Seeking guidance from eye_of_tiger please, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 66 · Posted: Wed Sep 26, 2007 4:28 am

Hi eye_of_tiger, I'm looking for a path right now (I guess you can call it a reading)? I just requested a reading not too long ago (I think 2 weeks ago), and I know i'm not supposed to request another one this fast, but right now I just feel even more lost than i was before.

Here are some info:
Me: Yu-Chin Hsiao DOB Dec 14, 1989
Her: Yicen Tian DOB Nov 2, 1991

I've had an interest in her for a year, and in June I got her online contact and started chattin with her online. We barely talked in real life though. She broke up with her ex this April, and I started talking to her in June. It was hard to talk to her at that time because she was being real cold an quiet, and I had to keep the conversation going, so later, I just give up trying to chat with her, and not go online for 2 months. Then a few days ago, I saw her at school but we didnt say hi, so I went home and got online, and told her that I saw her at school today, and then we sort of had a conversation going. She was less cold now and actually talked more, and asked me how i was doing these days (she never really cared about me), and just some caring words like sleep early etc (I used to say that to her a lot, and all she said was OK!).

Even till today, she still can't forget her ex. It seems like she is just putting herself in a cave and using boulders to block up the exit, it's like she's not willing to move on with life and just wants to stay in the past.

I dont even know what to say to her, when she's in a bad mood, I think of ways to cheer her up - tell her jokes, etc, but she just fakes the smiles. A week ago I decided to give up trying to pursue her, because it was too painful, and ever since the day we talked again, I thought to myself and told myself to keep going and not give up. But now after seeing her still missing her ex, I've decided to find out who the ex is and ask him if he can have another chance with Yicen by e-mailing Yicen's closest friend to ask about him, but I havnt gotten a reply yet.

Right now the 3 paths I've thought of are to make them get back together, to give up, or to keep doing what I'm doing (which is to chat with her online for a day, and then disappear for a few months, and then coming back on to talk again)

I really want a psychic reading more than counselling. I guess my question is what i should do right now... I also want to know what kind of a person she really is, like her personality and how she treats people. And last of all, I want to know if a relationship is possible for us.

Thanks a lot eye_of_tiger, it's A LOT to read

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 12:56 am

A psychic reading must never be used in place of you making such a major decision, using the information which you have available to you at the time. I could also use numerology to calculated both your Life Path numbers, but I feel that this would be about as effective as those love compatibility scores you can download to your cellphone. There is a third person in this love triangle (her ex), and I am unable to read as to whether or not he would want her back, no matter how she still feels towards him.

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Right now the 3 paths I've thought of are to make them get back together, to give up, or to keep doing what I'm doing (which is to chat with her online for a day, and then disappear for a few months, and then coming back on to talk again).

There is absolutely nothing you could do to make them get back together, as I do sense that although I cannot exactly read her ex's mind, my impressions are that her ex has moved on with his life, but she is both unable and unwilling to do so. Although I would not advise you to give up on the whole idea, you will need to decide just how long you are willing to wait for her to work through her emotional issues, and take down the wall she has built around her heart. I quite understand that she has done this in order to protect herself from being hurt ever again, but the downside of her doing this is that the pain cannot get in to harm her, but neither can the love you feel for this girl. You can only help her with this process of self healing to a certain point, by being there for her when she is ready to talk and above all not pressuring her as this is only likely to make her put up even bigger and stronger walls. My advice would therefore be to continue as you have been doing for at least the rest of this year, but if you feel that neither of you are making any real progress by say March next year, I feel that you need to minimise any further damage to your own self confidence and begin looking for someone else who is capable of giving you the love you deserve.

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I really want a psychic reading more than counselling. I guess my question is what i should do right now... I also want to know what kind of a person she really is, like her personality and how she treats people. And last of all, I want to know if a relationship is possible for us.

This is the way I am reading the situation, rather than attempting to counsel you, as I am not professionally qualified to be one of those. So in a way I am already giving you an intuitive reading. I am telling you what I feel, instead of what I think is the best possible course of action to take? At this stage, I do not feel that a detailed analysis of her personality is going to be of much benefit to you. Her personality is undergoing changes as a result of her healing, so what she was like as a person at birth (according to numerology) could be very different to what she could potentially become, if she is able to get through all this emotionally. Yes, a relationship is still possible for the two of you, but if she is unable or unwilling to finally let her ex go in both her mind and heart and you are no longer willing to wait for her beyond a reasonable time (which only you can decide for yourself), then you should cut your losses and find someone else with whom to share your hopes and dreams with.

Hoping this short reading has helped you to be able to make your own decision(s), now that you have some insights from a person who is not so close to the situation as you are (me).

Be kind to yourself my friend,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 2:45 am

So that other members can read my response to your private message, I have copied and pasted ONLY my own comments on this public forum.

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Honestly I do not place much faith in the idea of dividing all personality types under each of twelve neat little signs of the Zodiac. I am a Sagittarius, but in many respects I am totally unlike what the astrologers say that I should be. Yes, Scorpios can be very stubborn and resist change, but equally so can everybody else if they are under pressure. We must never deny that she has been deeply hurt, and that it will therefore take time and patience on your part to help her to get through these troubled times. If I felt for a moment that behind her wall she did not also have feelings of love for you, it would be cruel or foolish of me to then advise you to continue trying to discover whether she will eventually realise how much you do love her. Only then I feel will she finally take down the wall, at least with regard to you. She does see you as boyfriend material, but the wall is temporarily blocking her view or getting in her way?