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Posts: 102 · Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 3:46 pm

Hello everyone. I am requesting some insight as to the future condition of my love life. I am trying to fight the feelings of loneliness by trying to stay focused, taking on new projects, and being productive. However, no matter what I do the feelings of loneliness just creep back up and pull me down emotionally. Could someone possibly offer some assistance.

-Thanks
(You are all loved)

Posts: 160 · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 10:19 pm

It's always darkest befoe the dawn. I see a sunrise - means to me the end of a tought time followed by happiness. I sense before the end of this year. Instrumental in this is someone called Robert or a very close sounding name to this.

Lots of Love and Light to you curlyDredLocks

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sat Sep 15, 2007 3:51 am

Hi CurlyDredLocks,

Although I do not claim to be a qualified psychologist, I feel strongly drawn to add my own comments to the insightful reading which Jotejete has already so kindly offered you.

While temporarily distracting yourself from your thoughts of loneliness by effectively keeping yourself busy is a useful strategy in the short term, over the longer term when taken to the extreme it only forces the pain of these thoughts deeper below the surface of your mind where they are even more difficult than they were before to reach. Out of sight rarely if ever means out of mind? Then there is the reality to be taken into account that your feeling of loneliness exists as a series of layers, rather than being a single experience or entity. There are many forms of loneliness and consequently there are probably a number of ways to help us with each. It is also entirely possible to feel alone when we are surrounded by large numbers of other people.

While you are almost certainly talking here about not presently having someone else to share your hopes and dreams with, and a man who loves you for the wonderful person whom you already are rather than what someone else expects you to be, there is also a spiritual form of loneliness as well which comes out of a false feeling of separation from each other as well as our Creator. What this all means is that loneliness cannot be treated as if it was a single illness with it's own single cure.

Please take it from a man who has been relatively happily married for nearly 29 years and believes that he has found a soul mate in his first and only wife, the spiritual feelings of separation do not magically go away as a result of having a long term relationship or marriage. In your case, this surely means that even if you do eventually find the man of your dreams, then you will always to some extent feel lonely, at least while you still inhabit or are incarnated in a physical body.

But now on to your reading>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Immediately I sense that the difficulties you are having in finding love stem largely from the fact that your heart has been sorely wounded in the past as a result of someone who you once trusted as much as you do yourself, having betrayed that trust in a major way. It feels to me as if a knife has just been driven straight through my heart, and has been repeatedly twisted to cause maximum pain. Most likely the only consolation once you had actually discovered this person's act(s) of deceit and treachery was that what you had so long suspected was now well and truly out in the open.

How can you possibly deal with something when you are not even consciously aware of what it is? Please see the end of my second paragraph above. It is my belief that constantly distracting yourself by continuing to take on new projects and be productive is part of the problem, rather than it being a part of the solution. While I am definitely not advising you to permanently give up doing any work and to isolate yourself from your friends and other family members for hours each day in a darkened room, I do feel that you need to spend some regular quality time as well as your work and social activities in examining the possible reasons why you feel that you are being held back from taking the risks of being rejected.

These regular periods of soul searching and self examination may be greatly helped by you mediating for a maximum of 20 - 30 minutes per day, and by asking yourself exactly where these feelings and fears are coming from. It might also be worth speaking about your feelings of loneliness to your family doctor, as it is quite possible to be lonely as well as having an underlying medical condition (often treatable) or vitamin deficiency that is causing these feelings to be magnified out of all proportion. I am not saying that these feelings are only in your imagination, or that they are caused completely by such conditions.

The overall idea is merely to lighten your emotional load with the possible assistance of your doctor, so that your own meditation sessions will then be made more effective. This is especially the case if you are already taking prescribed medications for an existing condition. If you are currently receiving help from a psychiatrist, I would NOT advise you to attempt to focus inwards for more than a couple of seconds, unless supervised by your specialist.

To balance out your daily meditation periods, basically do what you are doing now, but to a lesser extent. It is vitally important for you to keep in contact with your friends and work colleagues and to take care of your own health while you are working through these emotional issues. I must warn you that once this process begins to work, you may find yourself feeling even more lonely than when you started, at least in the early stages.

Do not allow this temporary increase in the levels of pain to stop you from persevering with my suggestions, as it is much like sucking the poison out of a deeply infected wound. The process in order to to draw out the poison from the wound can frequently be more painful than the wound itself, but once it has been done the very first but important step has been taken towards your almost inevitable emotional healing. You have already courageously started your own self healing by requesting this reading, and I wish to strongly encourage you to keep going, now that you have got this far.

While this reading does not either predict that you will have a loving relationship within the next six months or so, or that you will remain lonely for this time, it is telling me that you are already close on the trail to finding a much more lasting solution to your feelings of chronic loneliness. It is very likely that if you did happen to find a man to love before most of these problems had been faced and had at least begun to be worked with to some degree, that you would soon discover that until the poisons are released you will continue to feel painfully insecure within any close relationship of your's, no matter how much he tries to tell you that he loves you and would therefore never betray your already deeply wounded feelings of being able to ever trust anyone again.

Please let me know if these suggestions and insights have been of some help and comfort to you, as there are an ever increasing number of lonely people in any society such as our's. IMHO

God Bless,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 102 · Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 11:40 am

I did not recieve an alert that my post had been answered so i apologize for the late reply.

Thank you both for your replies and insight. Lately, I have been feeling more spiritually in tune with myself than i have ever in my life. I have also been attracting many like minded people which has in turn expanded my knowledge on the spirit world and has made me feel less lonely spiritually. Actually, I feel the opposite of lonely spiritually. I feel like i'm a part of a HUGE spiritual family that love and care for me and watching out for me and spiritual progress in their own ways.

As for the task, yes i have been engaging in project after project. they have escalated in difficulty from the whence I started. and this next project, aside from work, is sure to have my head spinning. Earlier this summer i had a dream that pretty much said to me, if you can pull off these next few projects you will find your husband within them. Then the thought popped into my head that he will be one of the men i hire to complete the job. then i had another dream that I was wrapped up in a mans arms and he was tall, bald, pale, and strong. when i woke i had this overwhelming feeling of comfort and security. On top of that several people have mentioned that they see me married and pregnant by next year. so i have had some insight on this topic but i think you hit the nail on the head eye-of-tiger when you began speaking of my hurt and loneliness inside.

I feel part of a spiritual family, but I have yet to make a confidant that I can grow with spiritually. Meaning someone I can call on whenever to discuss topics of a spiritual nature with. Or even to just go have an occassional dinner with. I do not want to meet a man and put sooo much need on him that it drives him away or makes him feel trapped. I want balance in my life. Recently, the idea to begin mediating for 30mins a day popped in my head. So that was comforting to see confirmed by eye-of-tiger. also, I believe i have been suffering from depression for quite sometime now. I have been eating better and exercising lately, but i need to start taking my supplements again to help balance out my mood. mainly omega 3 capasuls or flax seed capsuls. so again you have been quite precise in your assessment concerning that topic.

i believe there is nothing left for me to do now, but to do what I know i need to be doing. i love this sight and all that put their heart into helping others. I want to thank you all from alll that is within me for the comfort and support you provide. Many blessings on you all and thanks.

-Curly

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 10:01 pm

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I feel like i'm a part of a HUGE spiritual family that love and care for me and watching out for me and spiritual progress in their own ways.

It is that wonderful feeling of being a much loved and valued member of an extended family of spiritual seekers from all over the world which makes this website a very special place to visit again and again.

Unfortunately I feel that spiritual seekers on a whole are more prone to depression than the average person, because we will never be satisfied by the almost endless distractions which a non spiritually minded person uses to stop them from thinking deeply concerning life's two most important questions - who am I, and why am I here?

Thanking you sincerely for the feedback you have provided, as it does help and encourage us as readers to improve the quality of our readings, and by so doing better serve our valued members (whom we also regard as some of our closest friends) on these MB forums.

Love, Light and Healing,

eye_of_tiger