i am having problems getting over a good friend i met last year.  Terms on our meeting was kind of eerie in a sense, but not to me.  maybe to those who dont understand, but i developed a closeness to him that i never had with any other person.  now we dont talk.  i dont know if dob matters but mine is 11 20 1964 his is 03 04 1953 (he is married too)  will i talk to him again.  did i mean anything to him.  i am going crazy.  i now see him coming online now periodically and it is getting hard again.  seeing him hurts, because i cannot correspond.

i am also married, and we have our problems. very personal at matters and i dont know how long we have together  my hubby birthday is 10 26 1955.  is my children going to be ok.. their birthdays are 02-09-1999 and  08-07-1993  the older one is adopted and having major problems.  did anyone mess with her.

Adopted children often have problems when they get older because they were adopted. Most Dr.'s will tell you that it is best to tell an adopted child at a very early age they were adopted. Never hide that fact that they were adopted or when they find out they develop all kinds of issues about who they are and why were they adopted in the first place. I hope this was not the case with your daughter. If she has known all her life (or since you adopted her if she was old enough to know) then she should not have an issue with being adopted. She would have grown up always knowing she was adopted and loved. I have a son that we adopted at birth. Now he is 7 and has always known he was adopted. No big deal to him as he knows we love him and his bio-mother was unable to take care of him.

Your daughter may be feeling the tension between you and your husband. Kids can sense things that parents do not even realize. Go have a mother daughter day out and maybe you can get her to open up to you. Reassure her that you and your husband are just going through a rough time but you will get it worked out. If you can determine her reactions when you discuss your husband maybe something did happen between them and she is afraid to talk about it.

Ask your self when did you and your husband start having problems and when did she start having problems. Are they about the same time? Maybe her problems stem from you and your husband's.

Try family counseling.

Its time to make some hard choices in your life. Your life has got to the my marriage sucks stage. Some of it is the hours that the hubby is putting in at work  other things are the poor financial state you are both in. the long periods of silence are unproductive and the arguing you do in bed is heard by the kids. They pick it up real easy, you fore get how you used to hear your parents fight and how you would seek refuge in your room only to hear it follow you. The guy you met came at the time you were most vunerable. I not saying it was a bad thing but it hasnt helped because you have used him as a crutch when you could have gave the same words to your man instead. Yes he has helped you but it hasnt translated into action to help your marriage. The Adopted duaghter is hurting in ways you cant comprehend because the only real family she has known is falling apart in front of her. In her eyes its history repeating all over again.Its time you included every one in the problem or watch everthing flush away by years end.
Sorry i Hope im wrong.
Pete

hey...... i do appreciate what you are saying but i was looking for psychic responses.  not opinions.  im not ungrateful, but i am a scorpio woman living with a scorpio man.  i know about how my children may feel, but that is not an issue in my daughters life.   she is having problems and i am feeling what she is going through.  my problems has always been, but i am falling out of love with my husband due to his inconsistences.  early on he told me that he did not love me... then he tells me he does.  his actions shows me otherwise.  he is still here, but i think it is because he was divorced 2 times.  i dont know for sure.  i am always helping everyone else, and my friend was a much needed help for me.  i helped him too i think.  we both needed each other, and i wasnt ready to let him go.  i wanted him there forever, and still do.  he, on the other hand, had other plans.  i once talked to someone who knew astrology and they told me that he indeed liked me, but not in the same aspect as i did. that we were together in another life.  we were good friends.  i want to know if i will hear from him again.  and in what aspect.  she also saw that he impacted me.  she said like lightning.  and that was true.  he made me feel things no one else ever did.  i am a faithful woman, true to her man.  he made me realize that i dont love my husband.  he made me realize that i really dont need to be here with the abusive emotional tensions i feel .  i am here because my son loves his dad.   my daughter has spent the summer away and without the tensions, she managed to make a mess where she was also.  my daughters problems run deep.  since she is adopted. and sometimes of the problems here, i was wondering perhaps if something may have happened.    i do appreciate all that you all wrote, but i wanted to have things that was inspired by "knowing" in the  spiritual sense.  a decernment in a sort, but not in opinions.  i have my own opinions.  and she is not the first set of children i have raised.   my husband is older  and has had kids oreviously.  i have my own opinions.  and i live here.   i wanted facts.  thanks anyway again.  

i ama scorpio and also a yankee by way of NY  so dont be upset by me saying exactly how i feel..   it what i do.........lol  no hard feelings...... k  

have a great day and dont hesitate to respond.