Hi Robin
He hasnt got to the point where he has no choice but solve his own problems. Im sorry but all i pick up is him hiding in a corner while the big girls sort out the mess.Her being here had nothing to do with him. It was all about the convienence he presented when he contacted her before she came over. Now that she has screwed you both around she is happy.
This was her revenge and now shes bored.
Sorry i hope the next bit not what im seeing but you need to ask him the question that you have been putting off because you dont want the wrong answer.
Peter

thanks peter, that's about what i'm seeing as well. she's very cruel and vindictive and thinks it's funny. the question i have been avoiding is "how long are you going to let her get away with acting like that before you get rid of her?" But he keeps saying he doesn't think she'll be here much longer--i think he's waiting to see what she does one way or another and i wish he would make up his own mind instead. we went to bingo on friday and he told me after she goes away he plans to take a vacation before he makes up his mind what he wants to do. I think that would be good for him to get in touch with himself, i don't think he has in quite a while.

robin