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Posts: 1248 · Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 6:19 pm

hi everyone i am seeing this guy but i feel that he is not being honest and he is hiding something can someone tell me if he is and is this relationship going to last? thank u hugs

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Tue Aug 28, 2007 3:23 am

Dear Tara Princess,

To be able to tell you exactly what he may be thinking or hiding from you I would need to be a mind reader, or alternately to give you a third party reading which is not permitted on this site. Even if I were allowed to do this within the site rules, I would not choose to do so as I see it as an invasion of his personal right to privacy. I can however place the focus squarely back upon you (the person requestion this reading) and ask my inner source about your relationship with him NOW. I believe that if we can each do whatever we can to make the relationship in the present moment, then the future will largely take care of itself.

Firstly I would caution you not to base your opinion as to whether he is not being entirely honest with you entirely on what you are feeling, although I am certainly not saying that you should completely ignore your fears and doubts about his true intentions towards you. I am merely saying that you should first seek much more visible evidence that he has not been telling you the whole truth of the matter, BEFORE you come right out and openly accuse him. I do not know just how long you have been "seeing this guy", but no matter how long you are in a relationship with a person (even if you have been married to them for 60 years), the simple fact of the matter is that nobody shares 100% of their thoughts or feelings with their partner. If there is any person here who can say with no reservation whatsoever that they have always been entirely honest with any person with whom they have had a relationship, then please let me know this as you are an exception, rather than the rule.

But your reading does also strongly suggest to me that you believe deep down not only that he has been concealing things from you, but that he has above all been unfaithful to you. This question is something entirely different from what I have been talking about up till now, and I therefore feel it deserves a much more urgent look into. If you are still at a relatively early stage of your relationship with this man, a reasonable amount of feelings of insecurity as to whether or not you are the only woman he loves is perfectly natural.

It is consequently again quite natural for you to be more than a little suspicious if he appears to be getting cold feet with regard to loving you, because he is POSSIBLY already getting most if all of his many needs met in the arms of another woman. There may be other quite innocent reasons why he is holding back, but I do feel that it at least requires further investigation, even if it eventually turns out that you actually have no valid reason for worrying about him straying.

As I advised above, I feel that if you openly confront him with the accusation that he has been unfaithful or dishonourable towards you, he is either likely to be even less honest with you in the future, or will probably tell you that he wants out of your relationship, ASAP. If he has been unfaithful to you in the past and is now willing to be honest with you about this, then getting it out in the open could possibly be the first stage of healing your relationship with him.

But if you rush straight in with no evidence at all and accuse him, he will in all likelihood become so defensive (even if he is perfectly innocent) that this will no longer be possible. I would therefore suggest a more tread lightly approach. Instead of risking him seeing this as necessarily being a personal attack upon his integrity, talk to him about your own feelings of insecurity and ask him if there is anything you could do yourself to make him happier. In other words instead of seeing this as you needing to attack what you see as being a possible problem head on, take a more active role in becoming part of the solution?

If he does not come to view what you are saying as being a highly personal attack on him, I feel that he will as a result see no need to become overly defensive, and you will then have a much better chance of determining the real truth of the matter. Hoping these insights have been of some assistance and comfort to you, and although I do not feel that you should necessarily panic yet, I do sense that unless you can soon resolve this one way or the other that there is a very small chance that you will still be together with him six months from now.

Act now, but do tread carefully in order to avoid breaking his very fragile male ego (like walking on egg shells)?

Loving regards,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 1248 · Posted: Tue Aug 28, 2007 1:08 pm

thank u so much eye of the tiger this was a big help to me i will heed your advice, u are always so helpful u are such a sweetie hugs