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Posts: 49 · Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 11:28 pm

Hello, I've been seeing a man for a few years now. He doesnt give much away, I love him very much, and he says he loves me. Things have not progressed the way I would have liked with this relationship, and always feel that he is being very 'guarded' with his emotions. Time is marching on for both of us, and was wondering if there was actually any future for me and this man. I have various personal problems which I am trying to cope with, but this is not helping matters. I would dearly appreciate a reading if it were at all possible.
many thanks
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Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 5:59 am

Hello Elise,

All reading requests must be made in the Psychic Reading forum (which is a sub forum of this one).

One of our friendly but always busy board moderators will soon move your request to the relevant forum on your behalf. You do not need to repost it.

Could I please also bring to your attention the rule which states that new members are strongly encouraged to look around and post to some of the NON READING forums, before posting their very first reading request? Just a few non reading request postings will be all that is required.

Why not begin by introducing yourself to the other members here:

We are looking forward to reading for you on the Psychic Reading forum, once the new member readings rule has been satisfied. These rules equally apply to all new members, so please do not take them too personally as meaning that we are avoiding you, or just don't care.

God bless,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 49 · Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 8:04 pm

Elisechaina,

I received a clear and simple image when I read your request for a reading and help. It was the image of a shoe that had an enormous amount of a very sticky substance on its sole. No matter where you put your foot down, as soon as you tried to lift it this sticky goo clung to it, slowed you down, and held you back. No matter where I might pick you up and place you the same thing would occur.

The message of the image is that until you scrape and clean the sticky substance from the bottom of your shoe you will have the experience of being held back and stuck in place. No matter what is transpiring in your outer circumstances and relationships this goo will only make matters worse.

The image gives me no indication of what this sticky substance might be. It is not for me to know. I only sense that you have been sticking in place for some time now because there was a large amount of this substance underfoot. And until it is removed you will always know its there "at the bottom of things" making forward motion in your life a difficult chore.

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2007 4:06 am

Hello again Elise,

It would be inappropriate and I feel cruel to tell you that this relationship is going to get significantly easier soon, but my impressions are that it is still worth persevering with, as long as this man is finally able to admit that many of the current problems within your relationship stem from him alone. Am I correct in feeling that he likes to continue to play life in general and particularly love with his cards held tightly concealed against his chest. To delve into exactly why he keeps his real feelings hidden away from you would I feel be of very little benefit to you in better understanding him, if indeed I was permitted to offer you a third party reading. All that I can say for certain is that the personal issues which have lead to him doing this began long before you ever met him. He brings considerable emotional baggage with him into your relationship, very little (if any of it) directly related to yourself?

But that is now firmly in the past, and after several years of waiting to be able to move onwards with a reasonable degree of confidence to the next stage of your relationship, while still not getting any definite message one way or the other from him as to whether he wants you to be anything else beyond a friend or casual lover, the time for saying enough is enough is drawing ever nearer. I can completely understand and empathise with you when you say that this is not in any way likely to help you to come to terms with your personal problems at the same time.

You may believe that by ending the relationship now you will at least lighten your total worry or stress load and consequently make it much easier for you to deal with your own problems, but my feelings are on the basis of this reading that losing him completely could potentially do so much damage to your own feelings of self respect that you would only be making your personal issues significantly worse by doing so.

And the simple fact of the matter is that you love him too much to do this (at least at present). Now that you have come so far (although the lack of progress is only I feel on the surface, as you are yet largely unaware of how close you are to helping him to relax his defences and finally let you into his heart), I do think that it is worth continuing with this up to a certain point. Only you can and should say when that point has been reached, and I am definitely not advising you to persevere indefinitely, especially if he is later proved to be unfaithful to you, or is alternately abusing in some way your love and trust in him.

Do not allow him to convince you that a half hearted relationship where he is either incapable or unwilling to make the necessary emotional commitments to you is better than nothing at all, or that you do not deserve anything better. My feelings are that much more emotional honesty is needed from him ASAP. If he cannot after having known you all this time begin to bring his feelings for you more out in the open and trust that you will not use this against him (which is what I feel is the major issue he is presently struggling with - LACK OF TRUST), then you may need the services of a qualified professional to help him to sort some of these personal problems out, PRONTO.

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But although you can help to support him through this healing process, ultimately much of the effort must come from him. Sometimes the only way to help those people we most love to finally do something to help themselves is to temporarily step aside, or if this does not do the trick, eventually let them go entirely.

Tough love?

Yes it is I feel worth persevering with this relationship up to a certain point which can and must only be decided by your good self, but if he does not feel the same way in both his words and actions in dealing with his accumulated emotional baggage (possibly with the help of a relationship counsellor), then I believe that you will ultimately need to walk away from this particular relationship, for both the sake of your own health and your self respect. If you are being asked to accept that you do not deserve anything other than your current circumstances, turn 180 degrees in the opposite direction, hold your head high, and with dignity walk straight ahead.

Loving regards,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 49 · Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 5:15 am

Thank you so much Eye of Tiger and Grayson for my readings. They were amazing, both spookily accurate. Grayson you are right about the stickiness you feel,I have felt this feeling for years in my life, i take one step forward then one step back, i describe it as 'treading in treacle', I know what I must do. Eye of Tiger, wow! a fabulous reading (and so extensive) I got goosepimples, you got it so right..everything you said about my partner was so true, I ultimately have to make a decision about him. Thank you so much for taking the time and effort for my readings. I really appreciated that, best wishes and love to both x