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Posts: 2 · Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 10:03 am

please help me find a lead to wat i have to do. need to know what is store for me. ive been having problems with my relationship. we've been together for 7 years and nothing seems to go well right now. my birthday is april 14, 1981, aries.

would appreciate whatever reading, advise or insight you can give me.

thanks.

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 2:41 am

Welcome Megarita,

It is believed by many numerologists that every 7 years or so our lives enter a new significant phase, so perhaps what I am suggesting after 7 years together with the same man is that you are in a similar position with regard to your relationship. While I do agree that your relationship with him as now at a crossroads (or is on the threshold of entering upon a more challenging phase), I am still feeling quite positive about your chances of making a successful transition from the now completed phase to the newer one. I therefore do not see this either as being the end of the road, or alternately as a permanent stalemate where nobody can help you to get off this plateau on which you now currently find yourselves.

Without wishing to be openly accused of asking you for any more information than is absolutely necessary about exactly what you were referring to when you wrote "and nothing seems to go well right now", could you please provide me with some of the finer details about precisely in what way NOTHING SEEMS TO BE GOING RIGHT?

This suggests to me that EVERYTHING is going wrong, and while I do sense that your relationship is presently falling far short of your own expectations, I do feel with due respect that you may be quite unintentionally magnifying your interpersonal difficulties in your mind and perhaps am making a mountain out of several smaller molehills. Psychologists call this process of unconsciously magnifying our current circumstances out of all reasonable proportion CATASTROPHISING.

This being said, I am certainly not advising you to remain in an unhappy or miserable relationship indefinitely, if by staying with him you are being cheated on or are in danger of being abused physically or otherwise. If he is neither willing to give you the love and respect you so deserve, and is also unwilling to admit that both of you have your own positive and negative personality traits, I do not see any future for your relationship over the longer term. If he has threatened physical violence towards you in the past, be especially careful in removing yourself to a much safer and secure place to live, as soon as it is humanly possible to do so.

If however things have not deteriorated as much between you as your posting tends to lead people to believe, I would like to turn the focus of this reading away from being merely an endless blame game and back towards the person who requested this reading in the first place aka yourself. Please regard the following not as a personal attack or yet another reason for feeling as though you might have failed to do what you should have to improve your relationship situation, as this is the complete opposite of my intention.

Your date of birth immediately tells me that you have a Life Path or Destiny number of ONE. Effectively this can be interpreted to mean that you have entered this current lifetime to learn to stand up for your own rights (become more assertive) and to become more of an individualist. This does not mean that you must consequently spend the rest of your life completely alone, but it does probably mean that the difficulties you are having in your closest relationships were meant to be valuable opportunities in order for you to become more confident as an individual WITHIN an intimate relationship. You are being challenged to at the same time become a confident and assertive individual, without allowing your own equally important needs to be ignored and sacrificed for the benefit of the relationship itself.

Currently this relationship is basically one sided and is mainly directed in attempting to please your boyfriend at all times (which is impossible, so don't think that you will ever succeed at doing so). You would not I think be normal or human if you did not feel a level of resentment towards this man whom I feel you still love deeply (and I also sense still loves you as well in his own unique way). Instead of seeing your own feelings of resentment that your ideas and opinions are not being considered as a sign that EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAS GONE WRONG, view it instead from a higher and more practical perspective.

Try to see your feelings rather as the potential beginning of a gradual healing process where both partner's needs are equally considered. See them as a big part of the solution, rather than being a sign of impending failure. They say that the only true failure is when we are unwilling to show enough patience and compassion for ourselves not to give it another good try if only for the sake of our own self esteem, and in the case of your relationship I feel that if you can both honestly communicate your feelings to each other without becoming overly aggressive (and thereby making your partner feel either threatened or unloved) that there is still great hope for the two of you as a couple over the longer term.

There will continue to be a need for considerable give and take and a willingness to compromise or take turns at making important decisions which might possibly impact upon your relationship as a whole. While I am not saying this is going to be easy, if you do not give it at least one more good try, I feel that you could live to regret not finding out for yourself whether there was indeed hope that you could have resolved your relationship difficulties in co-operation with one another.

Kindest regards,

eye_of_tiger