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Posts: 39 · Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 2:04 pm

i am very much in love with a man 14yrs older than me. we've had a few breakups but we both know we really didnt want to. we've always told each other at the least we'll remain friends if we wont make it work. he's very busy with his job. i know i will be busy too once i start training/job and study for exams. i am in a state where everything is hanging. love, career, life..i try my best to stay positive but sometimes it just gets harder. i would like a personal private reading where i am able to give you more info about what's goin on but if not, i would appreciate if any of you could give me a reading in public. my bday's march 5, 1984. 3:24am

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 7:07 am

Welcome Yah,

All readings given on the MB forums are public ones in the sense that readings are to be given only on the forums themselves.

By any common measure an age difference of 14 years is quite a sizeable one, but you are already both legal adults, and therefore have a perfect right to decide whether you can both live with the pressures that society and other significant people in your lives will put upon your relationship with this man (especially if your union is blessed with children at a later date).

To be perfectly honest with you, although you say that you would be quite contented to simply remain good friends with one another if your relationship did not work out as you might have liked it to, I get a strong feeling that neither of you would be satisfied with this less than ideal arrangement for very long. In other words, I feel that you would eventually drift apart and quickly go your own separate ways as soon as it became apparent that your relationship was not likely to ever progress to the next level. It is therefore more a case of whether you will become lovers, or whether you will each look further afield.

Looking at the increasing amounts of time and energy which you will both need to use in getting your education and doing your jobs to the best of your abilities as well as the various setbacks which you have already endured in your relationship, I can quite understand why it would be difficult for you to continue to remain positive in the light of the available evidence.

But having been married myself for nearly 29 years and having also experienced my fair share of health difficulties, I feel that I know more than many just how often true love can prove us all wrong. While I generally avoid making predictions one way or the other with regard to whether or not I feel that a relationship has an above average chance of succeeding at least over the longer term, I like yourself wish to remain as positive about this as is humanly possible.

To give you a reading concerning what exactly is going on in this man's mind would require a third party reading which is not normally permitted on sites such as this one. The reason generally given is that because the other person does not know of us and has not therefore requested a reading, effectively his own thoughts and what might have happened in his upbringing to make him the way that he is this is seen as his own business and a reader who goes into this is invading his right to privacy.

Actually there is nothing going in your relationship with him, other than what is already obvious (what you have already told us). You feel that at present your education and getting a job must be given a higher priority, while he is heavily committed to his own work. If you are having doubts or are perhaps suspicious that your relationship is running hot and cold because there is another woman in your prospective partner's life, I can almost assure you with approximately 99% confidence that you have absolutely nothing to worry about in this department. He barely has enough energy free to do his job to the very high standard which he places upon himself and to also see you on a fairly regular basis without having either the time or the energy for a love triangle. You must also take into account that at 37 years of age (I hope my maths is working OK) he is at a much more advanced stage of his career than a person in her early 20s would be.

He would probably have extra responsibilities and tasks to do, and may even be looking at the possibility of an executive or supervisory position in the company for which he is working. There are so many different complex factors which are currently going on in both your lives at the moment that could potentially cause difficulties for your relationship without allowing your imagination to get the better of you by suspecting that there is something dark and sinister going on, when I sense that you have no reason at all for concern, beyond what you already know.

My advice on the basis of this reading is to not try to push things along too fast with this according to your own schedule. Doing this would almost guarantee that you will lose him. I believe that to have both your education and jobs as well as keeping your relationship moving along in the right direction, you need to find a comfortable working balance for each of you as a couple. There will be times when you may not be able to see each other in person every day due to increased work or study pressures. Why not keep in contact by phone or perhaps over the internet at such times. There will be periods such as holidays from your course or when your work loads are reduced and make the most of these times in getting to know each other better.

However you ultimately decide to juggle the various demands placed upon the both of you, it is clear that it will involve considerable give and take by both parties as well as significant willingness to compromise. I believe that your relationship is well worth persevering with and that if you do not allow your fears and self doubts to frighten you to the point that you are no longer willing to give your love a good try, that there is great potential for a deeper love and enduring happiness ahead for the both of you.

Love, Light and many other blessings are now coming your way,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 39 · Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:26 am

eye_of_tiger!!! thank you so much! i can't thank you enough. i am so happy having read your message. mixed emotions. i want to cry. lol. sorry.

that colorful welcome note felt so warm.

at first i thought it is indeed impossible to become friends after a relationship, but when i thought more about it, humility, forgiveness and being open minded are just one of the few things i could give for what we had and will always have. life goes on, whether i want it or not. i used to have difficulty letting go of something that means so much to me but i could say that i have more strength now to let go of things that aren't meant to stay. it's not just because i know God maybe has better plans for me but also i know in the end of it all, all i can mostly do is cherish and be grateful for all that i have in my life.

thank you for giving me added info about how it goes when giving a reading for someone. i honestly wanted a reading for me only. it would be interesting to know what's on his mind but other than considering that as invasion of privacy, i would just leave it to him. as much as i want to control things in my life, i know i just have to trust him more and see his words through his actions.

my grandparents on mother's side has an age gap of 23yrs if i remember it right. we could have witnessed a golden anniversary wedding until my grandpa suddenly passed away that same year. this is one of the many reasons i have why i try my best not to be bothered by our age gap even if people especially close to me have their negative opinions about it.

thank you so much for the advice. i needed to hear that. is it alright to say and think that if we're meant to be..if it's meant to last, it will? i know that we create our own destiny in the sense that we are the ones who make decisions for ourselves. do you think relationships are stronger and last as long as we really want it to?

God bless you! you're more than a kind soul who enlightened me and those in need.

yay