Reading Request, Please -- Attn: EOT, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 33 · Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 9:32 pm

Hey sweetie!

Is there any way I could have a reading specifically concerning the dynamics of a relationship? It's regarding me and my lover, who have been off and on for the last 2 years. Our information is as follows:

My DOB: October 28, 1985 @ 3:00 AM EST in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Elijah's DOB: February 16, 1967 @ ??? { Unknown} in Cedarville , New Jersey

I would really appreciate your insight and clarity on our relationship {especially in regard to what he's thinking/feeling about me } and what is to come soon for us. Rumors have been swirling around my job about Elijah possibly returning to work there as well, so I was also wondering about that.

- Crystal

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 1:26 am

Dear Crystal,

As I have already mentioned in my PM I am unable to directly offer you any insights into what Elijah may be feeling or thinking, as this would be a third party reading which is regarded by many readers including myself as an invasion of his privacy. But as for giving you reading specifically concerning the dynamics of your relationship with Elijah and specifically what is to come soon for you as a couple, I would feel both pleased and privileged to do so. If I understand what you said correctly, you are both currently living in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, but there is a possible chance that he may be returning to his place of birth in New Jersey (and you would presumably be going along with him) as part of his job.

Although you have so kindly provided both your DOBs, I feel that at the moment at least a Life Path reading could only potentially confuse the situation even more than it already is. It is the on off nature of your relationship which is the major issue here, as I sense that you would like to know exactly where you stand with regard to Elijah's commitment to making this all work, before you can confidently leave everything and everyone on whom you have depended upon up until now, in order to move with him to New Jersey. The worst thing you could possibly imagine is to find yourself stranded in New Jersey with a man who no longer has any time for you or a relationship which has unexpectedly turned stone cold?

Intuitively I feel that this see-sawing of your relationship is not that you do not love another (as I feel that you were meant to be together) but that it is the result of a constant re-ordering of especially his priorities. The major challenge as I see it for Elijah is to spread his limited time and energies relatively evenly between your relationship with him, and the many other equally important aspects of his life, especially his employment. I feel that Elijah has tended to spread himself far too thin in the past between his personal, social and working selves, and that he is with only limited success attempting to distribute equal amounts of his time and energy to all which is of importance to him (including you) and is unfortunately not consequently able to focus on any one of these aspects at a time which most deserve his attention. In other words he is trying to please everyone including his boss and yourself all of the time, and is not really able to please anyone.

Combine this with all that appears to be currently going on with changes with his extra responsibilities at work and the pressure he feels within himself to be as honest as he can with you but at the same time spare your deepest feelings, and I would not be at all surprised if Elijah was confused or perhaps even distressed by the large number of decisions he is being forced to make in a relatively short period of time. Everything in his life of any significant importance to him is simultaneously coming to a head, and effectively he does not know which way to jump.

Do I sense that Elijah has the very best of intentions to make all of this work as well as it possibly can, including taking your relationship with him to the next level and eventually settling down with you?

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that his intentions are in everyone's best interests including your own, and that he would male a trustworthy and loyal partner. He is a good man and he needs you as much as you need him to believe in you.

Do I on the other hand believe that Elijah will be able to successfully juggle all these aspects of his life, and to ultimately discover a more comfortable working balance for the both of you between satisfying his obvious love for you plus his driving need to do his job as well as he feels that he should?

I am not so certain about the answer to this one, as basically this will mostly be determined by how well you can continue to communicate and work co-operatively with one another as a couple with a common purpose. Please do not take his attempts to regain a sense of balance in his life as necessarily meaning that he is developing cold feet, or that he does not love you as much as when you first met.

In contrast to this, I believe that he loves you so much that he is even more determined now than ever to get the balance right, so that if you do both move to New Jersey you can feel quite secure in knowing that your partner displaying apparent temporary cold feet within your relationship does not always necessarily mean that the fire of your love has been permanently extinguished.

Wishing you both continuing good health and success in all aspects of your shared lives in the future,

EOT