could i have a reading please my sister and i don't talk any more first she started been off with me so i sent her some flowers to make up for what ever i was supposed to have done know i have just found she is actually lying about my actions i can prove shes lying Please help if you can

I get the strong sense that this is a lingering, long-term conflict. This isn't just a sudden, temporary misunderstanding. This is the latest chapter in a long and difficult story of healing a persistent rift between you and your sister. You are the one making the conciliatory gestures, and your sister is not returning them. (I could have gathered that from your post, but I wasn't going to commit to that view until I "saw" it for myself. So I think you are perceiving the problem correctly.)

Please correct me if I'm wrong: I get the idea that the dynamics between you and your sister are rooted in your mother's character and the way she treated you. I think your sister learned some very negative behaviors from your mother-- manipulation, envy, vanity, exploitation, egoism, and even fraud if she feels it is justified. Pretty much the traits of the Evil Queen type of character in fairy tales.

(Not that this is a complete assemssment of either your sister's or your mother's character. It is, however, an aspect, and it's the aspect that is operative with respect to your question.)

I want to call this person "Ellen." I don't know if that's right.

You have had a different response to your mother's ways. You've had enough of the politics and grudges and so on and have therefore become completely different. You've suffered from this treatment and wouldn't want to inflict that on anyone.

I get the sense that your sister's pride is injured by something having to do with the children-- I want to say that there's some sort of unfavorable comparison between your children and hers, or some kind of differential treatment, that she has perceived some kind of slight in this regard. Your sister is very status-oriented and keeps track of what she regards as unfair treatment. I mean she really keeps score. It wouldn't normally occur to you to keep score the way she does. Is any of this correct?

There is something about your marriages. One of you has had trouble in your marriage. It's not clear to me which one, but it's clear to me that your sister is somehow jealous. Perhaps she sees herself as the responsible one who does everything right, and yet you get some reward that she feels she deserves. If you're divorced, she is jealous of your freedom, and if you've stayed married, then it's her marriage that has been on the rocks, and she is jealous of your stability. I really can't say which one it is. Historically, it may have been both, at different times, depending on which way the wind blows. Either way, she'd be the type of person to complain that there's "no justice" in life. Is that right?

I feel that your mother is still around, although you didn't mention her, and is a part of this picture. Her involvement complicates things. Perhaps you and your sister are only communicating through her-- she's a go-between. But sometimes more like a double agent.

Whichever one of you has had trouble in love, that is about to be over with, and so, too, will this rift between you and your sister. Your love lives may appear to you to be totally unrelated to any problem with your sister, but she feels shortchanged somehow, and she is taking the opportunity to judge you and blame you. Maybe you cannot imagine her being jealous of you because she seems so haughty, but that's her facade. Anyway, it was, of course, wrong of her to take her feelings out on you, but that is the way she's always been. When the situation changes-- and it will, soon-- she will stop.

In the meantime, take the high road, as you have. You mention that you can prove she has lied. I believe you can-- but please don't. Just tell what you feel to be the truth to anyone who seems concerned about it. Don't feel defensive, because your sister's behavior is simply not your responsibility. You don't know what your sister's problem is because she's not communicating, and that's that. This little drama will burn itself out if you don't add fuel to it.

Thanks for the question, and I'd be interested in your response.

You have made things clear to me now .My mother died when my sister was a teenager, i was in a relationship .We are both developing psychic abilities but hers revolve a lot around my mother she came to the house and told me my mother didn't like a picture up of my father with is then xwife which he had meet years after my mum died and had by then divorced. to me it was just a picture of my dad happy but to her my mum was telling her she disliked it on the wall and this made my sister cross with me I took it down.We used to go ,for wont of a better expression spirit hunting,and never pick up on much .I deciding to have less noise and commotion around me, i went with just my family this resulted in some fantastic pictures. which she could not hide her disappointment .The children i don't understand as hers are better educated a bit hers and graces kind of thing.As far as relationships are concerned mine is on the rocks (This would be a long explanation as things have always been the same Ive just got stronger and find the past difficult to live with)My sister may be jealous that i live out of town as she wants to live out of town When i had closed down psychically through been  emotional i didn't have the strength to take her psychic advice from then on she told me the angels had turned there back on me and spirit where angry. i then started to distance my self from her as i felt worse . P'S know now that last bit, is a lot of rubbish as i think even mistakes are lessons

Exactly as I saw it. She compares, doesn't she? And I think that she'd be upset if her children were somehow given less than their due recognition, or if yours were given more. Her attitude about her children is very much tied up with status-- her status in particular.



Yes. Is it true that your sister is judgemental about how you've conducted yourself in relationships? It's as if-- as you say-- you've become stronger, and what I'm seeing is that perhaps your sister thinks you ought to have suffered more for not living as she has. Does that make sense?



You're exactly right-- it's a lot of rubbish. "Angels" and guides don't get angry with you and turn their backs on you. It was your sister who was angry with you-- for not living as she thinks you should. Which, of course, is her problem, and I'm sure she'll get over it.

The dynamics with your mother are very interesting. To me it was as if she was still alive, but I kept questioning that. It is an active connection.

By the way, your departed mother could not possibly disapprove of your father's current relationship if she has indeed "gone across." The "astral" perspective, if you will, simply wouldn't allow such petty jealousy. Maybe if she had chosen to remain "earthbound," this would be possible, but I think your sister is projecting this jealousy onto your mother's spirit, just as she projected her anger onto "the angels."

Usually, I would focus more on you than on your sister and her inappropriate behavior and lousy boundaries, but I think it's important for you to hear that your perceptions of this relationship are valid. For some reason, you are not getting a lot of confirmation of this from people around you.

I am seeing a big improvement in your love life soon. Do you have any idea what that's about?

I forgot to ask: Is there a connection to any "Ellen?"