i feel so sad for your daughter.
but you will not look at any other answer, but the one you want to here. good luck.

blackcat

Actually, my daughter is so very loved. I stay home with her, that's my choice. It's not unusual for people not to realise that IVF doesn't actually take alot of time, and I've only done 3 cycles since she was born (about 1 hour for ER and 5 minutes for transfer) - so I fail to see how you believe I am ignoring my daughter because of this. She also does not miss out financially, because I make sure she doesnt.

Yes, I am sad about our failures, but, it doesn't mean I ignore my daughter or am openly upset infront of her. I'm sorry but you have the wrong end of the stick, it actually sounds like you're picking up on my sister, who isn't really very interested in her child.

My daughter is so loved, treasured and cherished and it stunned me to hear you say otherwise. She was and is always very much wanted and adored. Just because I would like another child as well does not make my daughter any less important to me. Infact my daughter is everything to me.

You said: i feel so sad for your daughter.
but you will not look at any other answer, but the one you want to here. good luck.
Sadly you didn't really give me an answer in your first post, just a couple of paragraphs of self righteous and judgemental attacking. If you don't think another child is in my future, a simple "Sorry, but no" would have been sufficient. A personal attack is quite unwarrented.

Just because one desires anothe child, and has to go through ivf to do it, and feels sadness when there is failure, doesn't mean that couples ignore the child that they have been blessed with.

I hope very much that you or someone you love doesn't ever have to face the frustration or sadness of the infertility merry-go-round.

I know things haven't been too flash in your life lately either, maybe it would be better to take a break from reading until you feel better and less jaded - I know I have done that.

Take care and I hope things improve for you:)
Blessings

Just cause lucina wants another kid doesnt mean that she doesnt like this one. BUT that she like so much that she wants her to have brothers and sisters, Im from a full family of 5 and I see alot of people that doesnt have brothers that feel so sad and it seems like they are always sayng "I need love" thats a big problem to the peopple, having a brother can be bad sometimes but in the end is actually good, I myself wanna have 3 kids and I will go through anything to have them and give them an excellent life
take care lucina

Thank you MazsBR, that is exactly how I feel.

Blessings to you:)

Hi lucina  


I'm sorry to hear that it hasnt and isnt easy for you and your partner to have another child.I have some friends,they are older than me and they had been trying for 8yrs to have a child,the pain of not getting pregnant or being pregnant and losing it was just,well no words can explain it.They had to even lend money off people like a loan,they were so depressed about the situation.

They have now got twins and are over the moon,there children are about 2ish.And yes when they save money and get ahead they want to try for another.So in a way i have seen what people go thru,it is such a difficult thing to have to do.

I don't think its wrong to keep trying for another,and i KNOW your little girl gets everything she needs,i dont care who the person is,i think its wrong for anyone to say,wheres your little girl when this is going on? I mean,oh my,of course you dont let her go without,she is a gift,like all children.Just because you are i dont know,having a struggle with money,depressed about getting pregnent again doesnt mean you love your girl any less,if anything you would love her more because she is a blessing,and so will your next baby.

Know that i am thinking of you,if you can (because of the money issue) i would keep trying,go for it.Thats only if you and ur body can cope,as in the emotion side of things,because like i said its very hard on all.And never think to yourself that your selfish,everyone deserves the right to have child,for some it is harder,some try for like 15yrs,they get there in the end and some dont,but thats life i guess.

But yeah,your a great mum,keep being strong,maybe give it some time and try again? who knows,good on you anyway.


Tamara :o)