Yes...that is very true...and I don't blame you in any way....

My last word would then be...maybe you alone shall start going counseling...your two first post was a cry for help.....and I think you will have good benefits from such counseling in what way you shall deal with your situation.

You are always welcome back here....but no cards...runes or other thing can help your marriage...just you and your husband!

Good luck

Yes I think if I go to counseling then maybe somehow he will jump on the bandwagon & come with me.  I'll go alone to speak with the counselor about the situation so they will be caught up to speed on things before he gets involved in the sessions.  That way I can fill them in on the fact that he'll probably think he's just coming to support me (Since he isn't the one with the problem. LOL)  Then they will be aware with how to deal with him when he does show up.  Anyway.....  I will give it a shot.  And yes I've been through so much these past few yrs that I know it will do me good as well.
Thanks so much for your time.....  Its nice to see genuine people in the world that still care about others.  Total strangers at that.
Thank you again........ Sheri

Sheri, sorry to hear about your situation. For now, I will refer you this link to Relationship basics.

Thanks Kris.  I will take a look at it.

My thoughts on this is you need to end this relationship...now...especially if there are kids involved. There is alot of what ifs especially the what if he has one of these episodes and hurts your child or you. And he is already showing signs of himself not being in control of his emotions.

I will share a past experience... I dated this guy for about 5 years...he was my first true love. So I saw past all his shortcomings even those shortcomings that almost killed me...for example one time I was in the bathroom and he pushed me back and I fell over the bathtub and almost broke my arm.  In the mean time he was cheating on me. So just a multitude of bad, bad stuff and actually eventually led me to go into the hospital.

Once I found out he was cheating that was the breaking point for me...and decided that this is not what I wanted for my life. Getting out of the relationship wasn't easy...but what you must understand is people don't change easily, especially if he is not willing to pursue counseling...which both of you definitely need to be able to move from where you are today.

My advice don't let your family be a statistic.