I have only been married to my husband for 2 months & am scared too death.  We have had a rough 6yrs.  He's very secretive & quiet by natue.  I feel as though he hides things from me.  Usually when I feel that way it ends up being right.  I want to know if he's cheating on me or has recently done so.  There is a girl that he was with a yr ago when we broke up.  She keeps trying to stay connected to him.  He did lie to me about not speaking with her.  She text mails him a lot but I think that has stopped for now.  Does he really even want to be with me?  Sometimes he's so moody & distant I feel like I don't even know him.  Is he unhappy w/ our relationship?  If so what should I do?  I love him more than anything & I'm afraid I will loose him again.  Will our marriage last?  Also, he is very flirty which scares me.  Especially since that's how I met him.

OMG~you were born 2 days before me~cool Most of wat is happening for you here is your own paranoia if you don't stop being so suspicious what you fear will become reality and he will blame you for not trusting him enough, for driving him into anothers arms.
He is only being so flirty because he enjoys the attention he recieves but theres not alot more to it. He is very serious and moody by nature which is a hard thing for a social, chatty, bubbly butterly such as yrself to cope with. Perhaps for this reason you are not very well matched but you can make it work if thats what you truly desire. You need to let him have his space and try not to get inside his head all the time. If you have a dissagreement and he walks out, let him go for a walk/drive and cool down for a while thats his coping mechanism he's not going off to see another woman he just needs to be alone for a while.

Don't try to re-start the discussion when he gets back either just try to bite your lip and be happy if you do this he will communicate to you more as he wont feel like hes being interrogated.

Peace be with you

Thanks for the response(GEMINI )  You sound right on about everything.  You are definitely right about him being moody by nature.  I actually have been laying off & not prying so much & have already seen a dramatic difference.  He even doesn't stay mad at me very long now (when he does get mad).  It used to me up to a wk sometimes of us not even speaking.  He would totally ignore me & give me the silent treatment for something that he started.  Now its usually only an hr or 2 & he's back to normal.  Its wonderful!!!  Thanks so much again!!!  I hope you have a wonderful holiday.  Take Care & may all your dreams come true!!!
Sheri

Reichild,
One more quick thing if you don't mind me asking?  Do you see us having any more kids?  & if so when & what sex?
Thanks a million!!!
Sheri

this was posted 3 months ago...no comments on this from me...but I think you must write 5 months now.