Who can define your Soul mate, BUT YOU!
Who know when you meet your soul mate, BUT YOU!
We all put our own thoughts, and definition, in our soul mate....no one can tell you when, or where, you meet one....only your heart, when your heart is "free from lust", and your feelings is returned from the one.
In my definition;
You can never meet a soul mate, that not return your "feelings",(not necessarily love) because a soul mate are "unite of (2)(or more) souls" that are on the same wavelength, it is not always necessarily the one you live your life with, and many times when we look for it, we loose the sight of it, in our eagerness to spot it.
That we have a crush on a person is not the same as they are our soul mates......again in my definition.....but you might call it so...its your definition.....but if you don't get a response...how can they then be soul mate?

(said in general, due to the many question about why soul mates don't respond the way their "lover" wish them to do....and since you say next I assume the first one was not your soul mate at all

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