Have been there once... and hurt so deep until now. The best u can do when u find someone that u think he/she is ur soulmate is put him/her in the friend relationship
When u shift it to romance... nothing good will happened ;D

Going through a similar situation like this, but only I'm the girl on the other side.  We've been together for almost  3 yrs.  
This girl at his job work new  were together, everybody new at his job. Yet SHE kept trying.  
I won't back down because I feel in my heart we're meant to be. Hes come back to me so my advice for you is this.

This guy is with his girlfriend for a reason, whether it is hush hush or not, you have to respect the relationship and DO NOT cross the boundaries,
because not only  would you be inflicting pain in the other girl by breaking her heart, it would hurt her family as well if these two are involved for a long time.


In the meantime find a hobby or something like that to get your mind off of him.  better yet find another man who is single.

Hi Lotus1

Of course, I am not the person to go in and break up a couple of anything like that at all.
And I would never cross such boundaries.
As you say they are together for a reason and I have pretty much accpeted that when I found out and have left it and done nothing about it.
Besides, I am over this person to an extent, its been 8 months since I last posted this up lol

Thats good news, keep feeling better

I've stopped trusting myself when I think I've met my soulmate. I thought I met him when I was 19 and it was a disaster.