you responses are all very helpful. Thanks for the suggestions and advice. I was hoping for an easy way out/in answer. LOL. but those never work anyways, thanks for the insight. be well..

The answer lies in your extreme self care.  What is it, that will provide you with the most joy, happiness, peace, health, stability.  It may or may not involve him.  Answer the question  "What is my greatest good...."  Emphasis on the MY.  Not the Him, or We.

To answer your question....

This might sound lame, because i know some people aspire to do greater things. But My greatest passion in life was to be a wife and mother and just building a strong family unit. I have always wanted that above all else. Everything else was secondary and just things i had to do....  And through my entire life I have always been a help of the misunderstood or unfortunate. I see these traits in my 2 year old son. Anyways, that is what I feel is my greatest good. To help others and help them to see that they are part of a family both seen and unseen.