I know that feeling amber.  My parents never split but always threatened to go.  Home life was a battle ground and to a sensitive to atmospheres person it was hell.

i think the treats are worse if they'd just stick to there guns and do what they say kids would at least know where they stand.. its more the kids i feel for as sometimes they dont have a voice or know what words to say

I totally agree; I am from a broken home and they split when I was 9.  It was hard; I can't lie.  The reason it was hard was because there was so much turmoil, but over all I am turning 40 this year, and it was much better for me that they divorced because they were both happier afterwards.  You asked for an answer spiritually, and if you believe in God, and he gave you these answers; then he will give you the strength even if you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel yet.  Go and good luck with your daughters, and don't get clobbered by the 2x4 or worse!!!

i believe that if you stay in a bad relationship because of your kids, then your kid is liable to see any fights or other problems you are having and might even get the idea that you are having the problems because of them. it doesn't seem to be healthy for anyone involved. just my opinion though.

Children tend to blame themselves in all situations.  So when parents split up they blame themselves until they realize how much better life can be in a peaceful atmosphere.  When parents say they remain for the sake of the children, the children definitely feel at fault when all the tensions rise.