my mother died a while back and the cause is unclear. im trying to understand if it was homicide , suicide or an accident. her name is pam

anything anyone picks up would be greatly appreciated.

Hi,

I'm very sorry that you lost your mother.  It must be especially hard to deal with if you are unclear about why it happened, and have some suspicions that she may have committed suicide or been murdered.

Do you mind my asking why the cause is so unclear?  Had your mother been suicidal in the past, or were there people in her life who may have wanted to do her harm?  Was there an autopsy or police report?

I'm not "psychic" in the sense that I "pick up impressions", and when I talk to spirits it tends to be a case of their coming to me--not me seeking them out.  So I'm not trying to make you think that I can answer your question that way (maybe there are others here who can).  I'm just writing because your post moved me, and I wanted to see if there might be a way to help you cope.

Take care,

Doe

I'm in the same boat as Doe. I eagerly await your reply with a bit more info, or in a PM if you don't want to muddy the waters here (I know that the less info you give, the more reliable the psychic answers are). I will say a prayer for Pam.

I got the expression in the wrong place at the wrong time.  She was with others when something happened (or started).

there was a fire, the autopsy said she was alive during the fire as there was smoke in her lungs. I wont go into to much details as i dont want to muddy it for anyone or give to much info.

My wife and i where driving down to see her , i hadn't seen her since i moved  away for a few years and my wife had never met her. We where going to stay with her the night we got into town but my mother and I had a fight over the phone the night before as it sounded like she had been drinking and she was very emotional. I had never said to my mom the things i said to her that night and obviously regret it but at the time thought it was something she needed to hear.I hadnt talked with her the next day but talked with another member of the family that said she saw her that afternoon/evening and she wasnt mad at me and was looking forward to seeing us but wasnt feeling to well that day.

We where arriving in town late that night and i decided not to wake her and go stay at my dads instead although i kept feeling like i should say f-it and go see her that night anyhow but talked myself out of it. we went to my dads around midnight and stayed in a 5th-wheel they have.I woke up maybe 5 minutes after going to sleep franticly running to the thermostat and checking it and had this paranoid feeling that my dad had rigged the heater to catch the 5th wheel on fire while we where staying in it. , i turned everything off related to the heater and after a while went back to sleep. I've never really thought that about my dad before but was really freaked out that i kept seeing and feeling fire. - this was around 1:30 -2 am ish

when i woke up in the morning because my cell phone kept ringing my dad knocked on the trailer door and said that he needed to talk to me. so i came out and he told me. my dad being the ex marine that he is just stood there looking at me while i was crying in the dirt on the ground. the wife he had for 7 years he couldnt even shed a tear for and couldnt bring himself to even comfort me as he choose to ignore emotion - well enough about my emotionaly disfunctional dad. so i went up to there as fast as i could and when we got there found that it had burned to the ground with just a burnt out frame left. Her truck had her clothes and personal things and her pill thing that she kept all her pills in with the week letters on it. I thought this was kind of odd because she put alot of stuff in the there that i know if she was leaving town or something she would have taken with her.

Without giving to much info - I found out that she was planning on leaving town as she had a fight with an individual she was close to.The story from one of the family members that lived close to her was that the night before she had taken a bunch of pills and they took her into the doctor and thats why she wasnt feeling well the next day.
The fire chief did very little work and i gave him a statement about one individual that to me proved a motive for murder. he took my statement but didnt really ever call back or do any other work on the case that i could ever find.  
one odd thing happened while i was talking to the fire marshal on the phone
as im telling him what i know i tapped my wife on the shoulder and asked her to slow down because she was going 70 and we where merging from one hiway to another . for some reason my wife nicole hit the brakes to hard or something and the vehicle turned sideways going 70 and then turn sideways in the opposite direction and did that agian one more time and then we came to a stop and where still on the pavement. I saw the pavement the first time it went sideways and it felt like it was going to roll. It didnt roll and the fire marshal heard the whole thing  , we where both stunned and state there in silence and the fire marshal is like hello < Hello ? are you ok ? Hello ?   when i got enough courage to speak i told him what happened.  Kind of funny because if he wasn't listening intently before  that definatly got his attention.

I found out later that they belived the fire started between 1 and 3 am  - it was reported at 3am by a neighboor but it was more then half burned by then.

This is about half of what i know about what happened that day.

a few months later i had a very powerful dream about my mother where it had felt like we talked but i cant remember, i remember her sitting in a chair smilling at me and the only thing that really stayed with me was a good feeling and a kind of peace.if i remember correctly the room didnt have annything in it. it was like the shape of a room with a floor walls and such but it was black on the floors and walls but it almost seemed translucent like the wall wasnt real or rather i could see thru it to the other side of the wall  - but there wasnnt anything beyond the wall i could see.

theres alot of details i havent given in all of this. hopfully what i have said helps people tune into it.
I can post a picture if needed

thanks for everyones help in this matter
and please feel free to post anything you feel on this.