Never knew that spiritalk. Thanks for sharing that.

Yes, thank you Spiritalk, I found that to be very informative.

Hi Doe ,you have started such an interesting and intelligent thread . I too experience some of these things like sometime i feel pressure on the matress besides me as if some one is sitting near me i dont open my eyes but spread my hand to touch her as i think it's my daughter . but i always get disapointed when feel nothing . I never told this to anyone in fear of that i will get the advise to see a doctor. But reading this post gave me the courage to share it.

Both Tourbi and Spiritalk's advise is wonderful    
visualisation and breathing technique both are very good as well as chanting of mantra . With practising different type of meditation you can find which one works best for you .

many good wishes ....surinder

Hi, Wolfshadow and Skywatcher,

Sorry it took me a while to respond; I've been (and still am!) away.

I only figured out gradually that some of the ear-ringing (I'm sure some of it is also due to spending too much time next to the speakers at concerts when I was younger!) is a way for spirits to get my attention.  The sound will always be in one ear or the other, and might be either a very low, quiet hum, or a much louder and more frantic kind of a sound.  Now that I can actually see what a spirit is trying to say, I know how the "urgency" of the sound correlates to the urgency of what he or she is trying to say.  The low hum might just let me know that someone is near--it almost gives me a sense of how "close" they are to me.

More often lately I get a little "clicking" sound.  Sometimes it's also very sweet and soft--basically saying, "Hi, I'm here," or "When you have a moment I'd like to tell you something." Other times it's loud and insistent, and so is the message!  

Spirits are individuals just as they were before they were spirits; each has his or her own way of doing things.  Some want help, some just want contact as comfort, some have warnings or important information to share, and some just come in love.  Sometimes troublemakers will try to make trouble; in a lot of cases (but not all, of course) I believe that that's THEIR way of making contact for comfort--they just don't know any other way.  For those spirits, sometimes just being loving and caring, and listening to what they really want to say, can help.  Sometimes it can't.

It's all a learning process, and it's important to protect yourself, but I'm a firm believer that being as loving and compassionate with spirits can work the same wonders that it can with the living!

Oh, and Wolfshadow--I see those kinds of images and "movies" too.  I'm still working on understanding what they mean, and if I'm supposed to respond to them in some way.  They've been getting a little clearer lately, though.  My only advice would be not to jump into any conclusions about them right away--just watch, and then keep them in the back of your mind as you go about your days.  Some understandings might come to you when you're barely thinking about something!

Doe

Hi, Surinder,

Just because you don't feel something doesn't necessarily mean it's not there!  Your feeling that your daughter might be near COULD simply be your mind giving you comfort (which does NOT mean that you're crazy or need to see a doctor--it's a healthy way for you to cope with your grief and get through the hardest times), or it could mean that she is trying to let you know that she's not all that far away, and that she feels your love.

Either way, my feeling is that if it gives you a positive feeling, and lifts the burden of your pain even a little, it's a good thing.  Just don't assume, as I've said before, that your daughter is "gone".  Keep talking to her.  She must love you very much, as you love her.

Doe