Psychics being standoff-ish, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 19 · Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 2:07 am

I have a little psychic ability, but it comes and goes. But I have this weird thing that happens when I'm around other psychics. My mother has "psychic parties" every so often and invites psychics she knows or has heard of by word of mouth to come to the house and give readings to people. Well she has had about 3 or 4 different people come over(all used more than once) and each one has been extremely standoffish to me. Rarely speaking to me even when I'm being polite. I was wondering if this has happend to anyone else? Am I giving off a bad vibe or something? I'm pretty good at reading peoples emotions when I'm near them, and I always get an extreme discontent or uneasyness sort of feel from them. I hope this makes sense and I hope someone will be able to help me better understand this. Thanks in advance.-fire_and_ashez

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 2:47 am

Yes what you are saying makes perfect sense to your's truly, and the sad fact is that your's is not an unusual experience, although it can certainly be most upsetting and shatter your self confidence if you allow it to.

I do not think that you should take this all too personally, as while such stand offish individuals may or may not possess the psychic gifts they claim to, they have unfortunately allowed their own over inflated egos to get in the way of doing this type of work. They would probably react in the same manner to anybody they believe (incorrectly) that they are superior to, and with due respect I feel that people like this give genuine and caring psychics a bad name.

One thing however about which I must completely disagree with you is your statement that you possess "a little psychic ability".

The reason why you do not yet possess any great degree of conscious control over your average to above average abilities is that the psychic information comes through your unconscious and not your conscious mind. When we try to think too much, and to attempt to gain too much control over our psychic abilities, the focus is necessarily shifted back towards our conscious mind, thereby effectively cutting off the flow of all genuine psychic information that reaches us.

My advice then is to completely ignore (easier said than done) their chest beating behaviour, and to thereby allow them to bear the full negative consequences of their egotistical attitudes towards others, who they might have otherwise helped if they could only get out of their own way long enough.

Honestly, I feel that this is the only way that they will eventually learn the lessons that they still badly need to in getting along with their fellow human beings.

If they treat their clients in a similar rude manner, then they may very soon have no further clients to abuse.

Posts: 602 · Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 3:43 am

If you've thought about this and you realize it is not you but them, in other words you are not socially deficient, you are comfortable in the social setting provided and pleasing to talk with and do not have this issue with a good majority then this is what I would suggest:

If my friendliness towards someone in my parents home that I am living in repeatedly produced a stand offish attitude towards me, I'd speak privately with them and ask them in a tactful manner, but basically the message would be "what the heck your problem considering you are in MY home?" It's extremely rude. Though I'm not 20 living with my folks and if it is my home I wouldn't hesitate to show them the door and don't let it hit you on the ass on the way out. I personally have zero tolerance for it considering I go above and beyond to make everyone feel welcome.

Fire and ashes, I feel some people don't realize how rude they are being and they need to buy a clue. If I were in your situation I would say to whomever it is "I need speak with you in private for a moment" and then when you do speak with her I'd say to her "Every time you are in my home, I make you feel welcome, I am hospitable and I am friendly, however I don't feel you give me the time of day (or however it is that they make you feel) Why is that?" The bottom line is she is making you feel unwelcome and uncomfortable on your turf... that's terrible manners and unacceptable behavior. Be tactful and give her a chance to explain herself... because if she doesn't realize it she will definitely get a clue just by you asking her (ask nicely, but don't act like a victim). And maybe it is just a simple misunderstanding which will be cleared up by discussing it maturely. Just by saying something will give her the inclination to be more respectful towards you in your own home and it will serve as a reminder for her to be more mindful in others people's homes of her manners.

Always be tactful, calm, never raise your voice or be sarcastic, don't whine (women tend to get that annoying high pitch in their voice when they get emotional and you just want to take a pencil and stab it in your ear to stop the pain) and never lose control. The moment you do, you've lost the battle.

EOT, you are a saint ::hugs::

Posts: 19 · Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 8:32 pm

Thank you both very much for responding. You were both helpful. I think I will speak to them the next time they come over if it is the same, just to see if it was some sort of misunderstanding. Thank you both again.

Eye of tiger - I always wondered about why it seemed to "shut off" if I thought about something to much. Most of the times I have felt something or saw something was when I was completely thinking about something else or not concentrating on anything at all. So what you said helped me better understand this.

Posts: 105 · Posted: Sat Aug 04, 2007 1:04 pm

Hey there,

I agree with Angelique. It is absolutely woeful behaviour to act the way they have. And I like Angelique's passion about it too ;) At the end of the day, its "your" home and they should display respect where (in this occassion) it is due.
And like Angelique also expressed, always be respectful in kind and keep your temper and calm...that way you'll keep your wits about you