My situation was slightly different but also the same in some ways. I left my boyfriend of 6 years for another man 3 months ago. The relationship with my boyfriend was comfortable and familiar but I couldn't say I was honestly "happy" and the thought of growing old with him was depressing rather than joyful. I was great friends with another man (the one I am with now) and we realised we shared the same deep feelings for one another.

I had the choice of leaving behind the old and embracing the new or trying to make the best of the old relationship. Of course there was a chance that the new one would fail, but there was also the chance that the old one would fail too.

I think if you have deep feelings for something else, there is certainly something lacking in your current relationship. Else you would not even feel this way!

I took the risk because I knew the first relationship would not work for me. I felt that we were too different and I did not love him enough to want to spend my life with him. This was reason enough for me. I had the "gut feeling" that my life should be with the second man, not the first. And if that didn't work either, at least I hadn't settled for 2nd best, something that did not fulfill me.

You are the only one who can make the final decision. A wrong reason for leaving would be that your life had become stale and boring because you CAN change that, but only if you want to and you feel it is worth it.

Also, I wasn't leaving a husband (nor were there children involved) but a boyfriend. I know it doesn't make that much difference. If you want to leave a relationship that isn't working, you can divorce. But I think you should have a long talk with your husband about your feelings (don't mention the other man at this stage). Maybe he feels the same, you never know.

I wish you luck and happiness in whatever you decide. For me, moving on to another relationship has brought me nothing but happiness and joy. I feel that I am with my soulmate now. But everyone's situations are different so trust your intuition and gut feelings. Do what will make you happy because if you are not happy in yourself, you cannot make someone else happy.