Theres no doubt in my mind that you'll get it together and get it working perfectly!

Through asking questions and seeking clarity we gain knowledge.  It's what we do with that knowledge that is the important factor.  We can choose to listen and act on it accordingly or we can ignore it and not do anything.

Your problem seems to be that you do in fact listen and want to act on it but don't know how to or what to do with the information obtained.  EOT offered his male help and think it might be a good idea to take him up on his offer.

I also think that its very easy for us to act without thinking or being conscious of how we are reacting to something or someone.  As an example, when Libby was 2 - 3 months old I started swimming lessons with her and they were great and she loved the water.  One of the parents took a video of the class and I remember sititng watching it afterward and it really dawned on me how scared and nervous I looked but I didn't think so when I was in the water with her.  I thought I was doing OK and was worried how she woudl react but didnt realise that my nervousness was so visible.  Basically, what I'm trying to say is that even though you may think that you are reacting to something/someone in a positive way, you may not realise it until you take a step back that you are actually not projecting the image that you think you are.  

I used to suffer the same thing and so to try and change the way I project myself to others I became more aware and conscious of what I say and how I say it ie I had to stop apologising for things that I thought I did wrong or said something stupid,  I tried not to be defensive or negative or put myself down.  What you said in yr last post is quite negative and a little defensive:


I hope I haven't offended you in any way.  I'm just trying to be honest but not hurtful of course.  I know you've odne lots of courses but have you thought of self development or self awareness type courses?

Help is there if you want it from many of yr friends on MB.  Accept the offers/advice or not, it's totally up to you.

All the advice is good and I should do something about myself instead of coming here expecting to get an instant fix. I'm not used to getting a slap in my face for writing silly and meaningless things and being Negative on top of that, yeah sure I know that I have been negative at times, but I always try to put something positive in there as well.

All I'm saying is try and think before you react to comments or people.  Conscioulsy think about what you're about to say or do.  I don't understand where you think the slap in the face is.

If people are having a serious conversation here (or at least its serious or sensitive to them) then it's inappropriate for anyone to come along and try and down play their conversation by writing silly and meaningless things.

Remember that some on here don't know you that well and "writing" on here is very different to when yr actually speaking with someone.  Tone of writing can be very easily misinterpreted/misconstrued on here and you might think you made a harmless joke of a comment but it may not always come across that way when the other person is in a serious or sensitive frame of mind.