At random times someone is about to say something or a certain number is about to be revealed or something like that and it pops in my head, but when I try to do this consciously i fail miserably another example was one time i was playing with a deck of cards and was able to guess the card until i was doing it seriously or trying to show someone else so how do i control this or recognize the true feeling

That is very similar to the tests given for natural ESP (extra sensory perception).  The fact that it is random indicates some need for training and control.

and how would i go about that?

Have you ever considered finding a good psychic/mediumship teacher?  All talents need to be honed through learning the basics from the teacher and practicing our own skills.

Hi Shelly,

Good question; how to recognize the true feeling; or more importantly how to Trust yourself.

Spirittalk mentions ESP training, and might be referring to the use of simple shapes; they are

a triangle, a circle, a square, a star, and a couple of wavy lines.

It's a good idea to use these at first for a few reasons. By being simple, you'll be able to focus in on how they make you feel.
They are also some of the first few shapes you learned as a child. They are also very positive and hold much importance in religious-spiritual traditions.

The first thing you do is get to know them in a personal way; you should associate whatever is inside that enormous psyche of yours to the symbol. Get these symbols on cards; print them out or draw them on index cards. Make several copies of each.

On larger paper, choose one of them, like the triangle and find out what your subconscious associates with it. Draw the triangle and add to its shape.  Do this more than once. Like you might turn it into a pyramid or a tree or a kite....etc. After you've made several examples decide which one you like the best and feels most potent to you.

You can also colour each symbol different colours and see which one seems most right to you; You're trying to connect with the symbol in as many ways possible, this will establish it more firmly in your mind for when you're tuning into it without seeing it.

Once you have done this and chosen your simple associations for each one, lay your cards face down in front of you. You want to connect those associations to the actual shape by training yourself to recognize the feeling. It's sort of like working backwards now because you think of your colour or image and try to pick the right card that goes with it. You'll probably be wrong a lot at first, take note of how you felt each time you chose right. That's the feeling you need to recognize every time you do this work. You have to do this regularly to eliminate the element of chance and guessing.

Don't strain concentration; deep breathing helps to relax.

If you like the deck of playing cards, maybe you're very in-tune with numbers. But even with those you should be associating something more with each number so they don't all feel the same.

There's so many exercises like this that get harder and harder; and if you are into ceremonial, ritual, or high magick, all correspondences between multitudes of symbols is important.

I hope this helps somewhat and you can think up your own games and exercises.