Can someone plz tell me how to close my mind from others??

Becuase I have some really useless thoughts & most are disgusting & I have no control over them, they just pop up, when I least expect it & it is frustuating me like hell. Can someone tell me how to close my mind of to these unwanted, random thoughts (i.e., I want these random useless thoughts to stop) & also close my mind off others, becuase I already have a identity crisis & don't want to lose more friends (even potential ones) because they can read something off my mind which is not me & I have no control to stop it & also think I am a bad guy, becuase I don't want to be a bad guy.

I am going mad now. Ray where are u??

This can be a complex and interesting place.  The mind raises thoughts generated by our beliefs and experiences.  As we are learning from new experiences, the mind can show the path of least resistance to change.  It is then up to us personally to change that course of exprience.

Thoughts will come.  That is the nature of the beast.  It is how we act upon them that makes us a person of value and/or spirit.

Thoughts are Living Things!


As living things our thoughts are what governs everything in our lives. We think and sow the seeds of this thought for it to be nurtured and blossom. The blossom is the events in our lives.

It then becomes how we think. Are we negative or positive is a good start. As a positive person, take charge of our thoughts. The random is often negative and comes from our own consciousness of growth.

When our inner growth has not achieved a measure of love for self and others, then we can not sow in love. Love is the key to all things in the universe. It is what we strive for in positive thought.

Negativity is when we are caught up in ego's admission of our own righteousness. "We are never wrong. Others must take the responsibility for my pain, my hurt, my life." That is debilitating and becomes self-fulfilling prophecy when we continue to 'blame' instead of take responsibility for self.

It is also a place of 'my' that takes too large a focus. When we focus all in our lives on my take, we leave no room for others to express and they may even teach us a thing or two.

My says...I do not belong to any other group of people! I am a self-absorbed, self-fulfilling, being that lives on an island named self. From this island all is well with my world, because I need no one.

Eventually all those that are within my sphere will see and absorb this message of self, because that is who I draw. By the law of attraction, I can only draw the same to my life. As I reflect, others will see.

In many lives I have seen this as ever decreasing circles that eventually disappear, but unfortunately right up into self. It can become the self-fulfilling message.

Circles, and circles of sending and giving the same. There is no progress. All philosophy teaches we must at some point reach out for new energy. Nothing survives in the vacuum of our own thoughts.

You have to work with yourself Vishwas....I think all your thoughts are due to the fact that you have great sensibility.

As you say; you want to save the world.....you want all people all good.....you want Ray to be your friend....you want life shall be in harmony.

Well....as you see there is a lot of  "you want"....but sorry to say, life don't always give you what you want.

You have to understand that in order for you to attain all your wishes, your counterpart have to wish for the same thing.

In order to save the world, people around you must have the same wish....so all we can hope for is to change a few...who again change a few.
In order to have all people good, you have to wipe out evil, but since evil stay in our genes...we can never attain it.
In order for you to have a friend....your counter part must wish the same....or the whole thing is build on sand ground...you only have to give...but never receive  (I am not talking about Ray)
In order for harmony...you have to create it...and fight for it...because there will always be conflicts that want to destroy it.

Thoughts are what create us as " major species" so thoughts are powerful...so powerful that it can also destroy you.

So I recommend that you start to lower your expectation, reap the fruit of a friendship...but never make yourself depended upon it...that make you weak.... understand that all people have one agenda....what suit them best....all above suit you...but as I have said....you can not be sure it suit those you run into in life.
Start to realize that we all are different...instead of trying to have all to like you....try to see the diversity...and learn a bit here and there....and always have in mind that you can't change them all

Good luck Vishwas

Rutho I don't care if everyone likes me or not, it is their wish. Yes I will feel bad that they don't like me & it will start my identity crisis of whether I am good or not again, but still I don't care, becuase it is that person's wish. I would like to change it.. but not everything is in my hands.

Both u (Rutho) & Spiritalk, thank u for what u have written here, will have to go through them couple of times to let it sink it, even then I am not sure it will sink in soon. But will try.

But I want to control these negative thoughts, becuase that is not me & I don't want them.