thanks a lot blackcat, your post was so amazing that i copied it into my journal and i plan to read it every single day for guidance and reassurance. BTW feel free 2 call me Troy. but a relationship b/t me and the girl is not possible because she is attracted to other girls not guys but she is so beautiful and so amazing that i really want 2 be her friend but i was so afraid 2 say anything 2 her...so if i keep believing that we would be the best of fiends and putting it out into the universe, it will happen? I will also try to be as nice as I can towards her. She is not like most girls but it is possible we could be the best of friends.

lol and you were right. I can't even look at her straight in the eye. When I see her I look the other way and when i talk to her I would probably look at her face like for one second then I look away. I Have NO clue why i do that but I just can't look at her. Hopefully i will eventually get over this and we can become very good friends.

No reason you can't be great friends with someone who isn't interested in you sexually. Like straight guys having gay friends, it's not wrong, because they're only friends. Just don't give the message that you like her as more than a friend. I don't know if that's what anotehr psot said cause i'm lazy, it just seems as common knowledge.

Don't be trying to toy with human hearts as if you're some sort of God.  It is up to God and only God to manifest the fate of our lives.  The only successful love unfolds naturally, you don't want ot have to be putting continual, underhanded and manipulative efforts into maintaining a relationship.  Not only will your partner sense that and be turned off by it but it will make the love of your life into the dull black void that is your soul and you're only hurting yourself by allowing your life to be consumed by it.  Do not submit to the evils, just because it exists does not make it the right way to live.

I'm not sure if something like this has ever happened to me but I fell for a my guys best friend and he felt an intensity of passion for me, for ever I ignored him and sustained my commitment to my bf but this guy was really into me always suggesting I pursue him, and when it came down to it he was just messing around with me, every time we would get close he's freak out and back away, but I feel possessed and this has been going on for months - I still can't let go and he's either scared or just taking advantage of the moment, I'm never sure why but all I know is looking back only tends to pull you under and one is so best off just letting go of the past, take your wisdom and create for yourself a more positive foundation to grow from.