Thanks, spiritalk! I definitely have high standards and ideals. I feel what you say about relationships is very true too. I AM very standoffish, but it is because I am extremely cautious about what you said. I have definitely had some run-ins with people who do not stand for truth in both their words and actions. But I think it's taught me a thing or two about how to read people.
Since I grew up with a lot of anxiety there are a lot of unfulfilled dreams and a drive to be adventurous that have been very nagging in my life, especially my younger years. I tend to get claustrophobic in one space too long because of this. I also have "put others before myself" ... but not necessarily out of selflessness. Pleasing people can be almost as bad as not being in line with truth in word in action, I think. I always have to wind down from people in solitude because their energy becomes too much for me and I get really agitated. Since by myself is the only time I can collect and know who I am.
I can't see anything about the family that you've stated though. I always wanted to run away or find out I was adopted as a child. I can see myself more in my extended family than my immediate family, but I have been severed from my extended family through distance, and unfortunately never got to know them that well. I know where all the similarities lie between myself and my parents and siblings, but it it all negative characteristics. And to be honest I always felt like the black sheep. My sense of humor and quirkiness is lost on all of them, and they neither support nor encourage, let alone understand who I am. They have trouble seeing me as someone separate from themselves, and unfortunately that puts a lot of strain on the way I feel for them. I have always put friends before family because they are the only ones who would ever be supportive in other ways than financial for me.
Actually the only thing that keeps me feeling I'm in the right family is because of my belief in reincarnation. lol. I believe that the family I was born into is good for the lot I have chosen in life because it may have helped to bring out the qualities and issues I need to be dealing with, but my relationship to them ends there in my eyes.
Thanks for the reading!