Prior to me being able to forgive and I have come along way to forgiving even myself in a very difficult incedent, I had spent several months surrendering everything, including the pain and confusion and self punishment and ....... well everything I have thought of including the incident itself, to my Soul Self and to God/dess.  I did it in meditation every night I could.
When the person suddenly was back in my life who had stared all the pain and problems in this incident, it all fell into place. After we parted and I was able to breathe again.  I asked what I needed to do.  FORGIVE, was the answer and I stood in the store and inside I forgave and surrendered it all and there were all the answers I had been seeking and then overwhelming compassion and finally compassion for my father.
It is a long process and yes, for me meditation was/is an important part of the process. I am continuing the process to get all the little bit I may have missed, all included and surrendered and released.

dear tourbi,

your post ,forgiveness is really fantastic,your collections  are very beautiful,really soothing,thank u

i feel forgiveness is to godliness, ordinary person cant forgive anybody at anytime,

It is divine, one who knows the way and means of forgiving others mistakes,  will  really get highest  liking  in the mind of GOD



prasanna

In my opinion is the Greatest gift you get with Forgiveness of other,  the peace you receive yourself.

When we are angry at other people, we carry negative energies, that prevent us from exploring thing further.

I agree that something is harder to forgive, then other thing, but it all goes on our Ego, the world around us have no impact on it.

If we allow ourself to "suffer" from thing that we instead should take as "life lessons" then we suffer at least twice.

How many times haven't you heard about family feuds, and no one dare to take the first step to "forgive", and when the reason for the feaud died, many goes around suffer, because they did not end it, and could tell that they love him/her afterall?
It also prevent you from seeing people who have the opinion that you are wrong, it might even prevent you from seeing,aunt and uncle children,grandchildren...yea...there are a lot of negative consequenses.

So let the thoughts about forgiveness be more open, meditations help a lot, by forgive you release a lot of negative energies, you are wiser, you know more who you can trust and who you can not, but this knowledge don't burn you, as much as the "hate" a forgiveness release

And many times when you release this "hate", you will be able to see the situation in a new perspective, and many times one can agree that one overreacted or was a part in it ourself.

Thank you for sharing.  It's interesting to read what you have shared.  I appreciate it. Yes, forgiveness does bring peace.
To forgive oneself and be open to being forgiven, if one chooses, is also a challenge and important.  

I value what each of you has brought to this thread.  I will keep reading and rereading.  Thank you