You are very welcome to chime in Callie.  It looks like you have reconciled your family issues and thats helped you to focus on who you want to be.

I learned awhile ago that Hatred isn't worth it.  Now I don't even bother with it.  There are several people who have wronged me is such a way as others believe that they deserve to be hated, but I don't want to take the time and energy to do it.
I figure, I don't like them, why would I want to put more effort into them?  My time and energy is valueable enough, and I spend it on those I truely care about.
I may dislike them, but I'm not going to go further than that.  I will go through in myself what happened to make it that way, cleanse myself of whatever wrongs I feel, and leave it at that.  I don't speak bad of them, think of them, or spend further effort on them.

What they do and say is another story, but I have learned to ignore that as well