Ah, there IS so much more to it, life is a journey, and for it to be a worthy one the intelligent among us seek to "know ourselves."  The most basic of what I was saying is realizing, as it seems you have from what you have said, that our emotions can be controlled by use, not vise versa.  If we have a feeling we do not desire we can concentrate our will to change it, or redirect it, or just plain ignore it.

Further on this path, and requiring practice and effort much, is to begin some type of esoteric, or Occult (meaning hidden of course), practice which raises your conscious from the Lower self towards your Higher self.

Any system of magical study, whether the Golden Dawn, or Rosicrucian, Builders of the Adytum, teach that the goal of Ritual Practices is the raising of your consciousness to a higher level, opening up new levels of perception, and ways of being.  For a "normal" person today, their world is presented to them by events, not planned, with no control, and it is ruled by their EGO.  The Ego's primary purpose from its inception at a very young age in every one is to make us feel that our physical shell, what we mean when we say "I" and "me", is the most important thing in existence, and immortal.  If it succeeds in keeping us under this false idea, we never seek the higher meaning of life, and raise our consciousness to a higher level, threatening to take the Ego's kingdom away from it.  One of the ways the Ego rules is by emotions: desire- causing us to spend our lives chasing insubstantial physical things or pleasures, anger, depression, envy, jealousy, etc.  Think of when you are consumed by a very strong emotion, is it not like you are possessed by someone else, with no control??

Well, when you begin on a path of enlightenment, the training you begin in Meditation, and the rituals performed, begin to raise your consciousness from the Ego, which resides at Nephesh in the Tree of Life of our consciousness, towards Keter, the Super Conscious.  The further you progress in this path the less influence the Ego has, until eventually the one in control of the kingdom is the Higher you.  You are presented with the Keys of the Kingdom, as it where.  Such a great goal is not even able to be understood by many, who do not want to believe that such a thing is possible, or that the truths that it being real means.

What is fascinating is that even from the very first when you begin to travel down this road, you will have joy at the things you will realize, and the epiphanies which will come your way.  You will find yourself saying, "So that is why I did that," or "I had no idea that this was possible."  You will walk as one truly awake among the majority zombies who live in but do not truly experience this fascinating world we all are in.

Feel free to ask any further questions you may have.

Thank you so much for your spectacular response!

I have only briefly worked with this, the trying to get the Higher Self to hold the reins,
as I know that it knows much better what is good for me than the Lower Self, ummm a little bit like its the BEST parts of 'me', my highest absolute potential. Not sure if that is 'correct' way of thinking of it, of Higher Self - its what I understand at this current level that I am at.
I still see it as separate, 2 separate worlds in a sense and I thoroughly look forward to the day when the lower self 'merges' with the higher self - its almost like having a spilt personality when I cast my thoughts on this. lol

To the drawing board! :D

Thank you again

nice that sounds soo cool i feel weird i got the same sence

Greetings Everyone,
  hOw is everyone today?  I can totally relate being an empath.  I am the property manager of three apartments and needless to say a lot of times I pick up a lot from others.  I wish there was some way I could detach though.  Because a lot of times I feel overloaded and can't put my finger on it and then I have an aha moment.  If anyone here has any suggestions on how I can control it and detach that would be great.  I hope everyone is having a great day.

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