Here one's "self" is not the self centered self... But it is rather the self which is part and parcel of the almighty and will merge into the divine spirit.. It is the theory of karma...

know one thing ? i just read that feeling apart from majority of humanity has to do with the first chakra being blocked . i would suggest that you go for a chakra test available for free somewhere in the net . Google for it and take the test . it may produce some help .

it doesn't matter whether you go to a church or not. it matters how you mingle with people, how you can connect yourself to people (it may sound bad to you but you have to do it. ) you have to come out of the shell and reach out to people, only then you can be happy with what life has to offer. remember, communication is the key and you can't be happy or content unless you communicate with others. how do you know that these are the only soulmates you have? i mean, there could be others. be friendly with people, smile and believe in the power of humor. life is not that bad.