Life is a balance.  And for those who feel out of balance with the rest of the world, that is hard to find.  When to help and when to back off are hard decisions to make.  

Always remember, in the end, each individual is on their own journey.  What you do with someone else must be accepted as their lesson for it to work.

yeah not sure when I should step in - but i always keep at the back of my mind that it will only work if its meant to work - otherwise it will just hit a brick wall.
So with that I feel why not just say something, its not going to hurt me and the message will be delivered if its meant to. At least I always know that I gave it a chance and I did my best at my current level of understanding. Rather try than not kinda thing.

Is that what you meant when you said this "What you do with someone else must be accepted as their lesson for it to work." ??

But you are quite correct - I have to be very very aware that I don't try change ppl... so I do have to constantly do a humility check on myself.

Yes, you have a handle on what I was trying to say.  

Actually there are some things given to a medium as what I call 'background information' for me to know some of their struggles without any interference.  They know what they are going through - and then so does the medium.  Saying anything out loud about it may just give it too much focus for them to handle on their own.  

My mom used to say...If you don't have something nice to say, say nothing.  It has never been more true than working with spirit.  If I don't think it is positive or will be received that way, they have an awful time trying to get me to say it.

i have the same ability but only when it is cloudy outside i guess its cause i am inexperienced