I know I'm always posting with questions but here's another one.  Can't help it.

I heard that sometimes people who pass need about a year before they start to come around or make contact especially if they were really sick before they passed or had a bad trama.  It's been well over a year now.  I've been doing everything that people have suggested and I'm still not getting anything.  I meditate and I talk to him all the time.  Am I just missing something or do you have to be really gifted to experience their messages and things?  My cousin is a Psychic and she says that he talks to her whenever I'm on the phone with her.  She gives me messages from him but there hasn't been anything that I have gotten myself.  Is there something else I could be working on?

K

The usual time for acclimatization on the other side before return is 3 months.  But of course this is just an arbitrary figure - I had someone come to a lady after 2 weeks.

Compatibility is so much more important.  We do mediumship work through our own guide because of compatibility and the law of attraction.  Opening to anyone or anything is just not good practice.  

When we get messages (and it can come on any of our 5 senses - sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch - tactile and emotional) from our loved ones they do not resonate as what they are - it is a trust thing.  Firm up your attunement with your own spirit guide and then you will be rewarded with a message from the one you want to hear anything.

Thank you Spiritalk,  I will make sure to do that.  Also, when I was reading your message I was wondering about my Spirit Guide.  Do they respond to any name that you choose for them or do you have to be told what their names are?  I know that it sounds silly to think that they could have hurt feelings because they know better than anyone that it is not intended as a bad thing to call them another name.  I would just like to be accurate.

K

I don't use names at all.  I use a specific exercise to contact my spirit guide - a symbol from nature.  I meditate upon a garden for peace then place a specific flower on which to contact my guide.  When the energy changes, and it does, they are there to work with me and for me.

There is no emotion with spirit, but courtesy on our part dictates a respectful attunement process.  I would not appreciate answering when you called someone else to you.  How about you?  I know -that is a human thing.  Spirit is just a human without body.

Really? I swear my nana came to visit me with in a few days of her death.  She was in a drug induced coma the last 4 days of her life would that make a difference? I am almost sure it was her, it looked like her, talked like her, and she told me not to worry that she wasnt dead! I had her come to me several time in dreams after that but havent heard from "her" in a while (this did happen this last december).

Maybe it was wishful thinking on my part.