what hepled me in meditation?
what medation did help to me?

i was in relationship and could not forget the person i had love affair.

and i find solution in meditation. and i am relaxed, i feel bundle of joy, confident, full od heart, surrder to uncertanity, fell stilness inside me. feel powerful and confident in life.

1. echrott tolle - relaization of being cd. i hepl me to go more deeper into being.
2. deepak chopra books. fr understanding of life events.
3.stillness speaks book. by echratt tolle.

lets see will try today as well.

now i dont have to do meditation out of need but out of joy.

I do meditation for both reasons.  I had to and because I love it, now.  I also had a devastation that was hard to deal with.    Talking to a counselor was hog wash.  But when I started positive affirmations & meditation, I was able to get on with my life.  

As far as trying to forget someone, visualizing them walking away, during meditation and whenever they popped into my thoughts was the best thing to do.

Barbara

We can meditate simply for the joy of it, yes.  We use meditation for healing and spiritual cleansing, so we come from the trance state refreshed and renewed

But as humans, we always strive for more to make ourselves better each time.  Athletes train to be stronger, faster, more powerful, more precise.  Musicians train to have more complexity, more precision, more adversity, more emotion.

By the same token, we should also increase our skill set through meditation.  Yes, we can meditate for pure pleasure, but to go forward with the intention of internal alchemy, we must also experience some discomfort, adversity, and fatigue until we achieve new levels to practice them with ease - like athletes and musicians.

Your body is the instrument of your mind.  To go forward, you must practice and push to new levels to increase your performance.  When you have finished healing and cleansing, then it's time to move on.