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Pravin Kumar
Age: 60 Zodiac: 
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 Posted: Wed May 23, 2007 9:55 am |
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Buddha had a disciple called Purna. He had been initiated and had become self-realized. Purna said, "Now I want to leave and spread your message to all the people who need it."
Buddha said, "I can give you permission to leave, but I have to ask you one thing first: where do you want to go?"
There was a small region in Bihar called Sukha. Purna said, "I will go to Sukha. Until now no monk has ever visited this area, and the people of this region have never heard your message."
Buddha said, "There is a reason why no one has ever been there. The people there are very bad. It is possible that if you go there they will insult you. Then what will your response be?"
And Purna said, "I will thank them. I will thank them because even if they abuse me, at least they did not hit me -- they could have hit me."
Buddha said, "It is possible that one of them may hit you; then what will your response be?"
He replied, "I will thank him because even if he hits me, at least he did not kill me. He could have killed me."
Buddha said, "I want to ask you one last question. It is possible that someone will kill you. Then what will your response be?"
Purna said, "I will thank him for releasing me from this life in which I could have gone astray."
And Buddha said, "In that case, you can go anywhere. Now wherever you go, for you, everyone will be a part of your family. Because when a person's heart is so full, at such a peak, nothing on this earth can hurt him."
Yesterday, I was talking to someone on the way here about Mahavira. It is said about Mahavira, although it may seem to be untrue, that if he was walking on the road even the thorns that were sticking up would turn over. This seems to be fictitious. What does it matter to the thorns who is walking over them? Of what interest is it to a thorn whether it is Mahavira or somebody else walking over them? And how can a thorn turn over? I have also heard it said about Mohammed that when he walked in the hot Arabian deserts, a cloud would appear above him to shade him from the sun. This seems to be absolute fiction. What does it matter to a cloud who is walking below it, whether it is Mohammed or someone else? How is it possible?
But I tell you, it is all true. It is not that thorns turn over or that clouds appear, but these stories are revealing something to us. People have tried to express some truth through them. Through them something very lovely is being conveyed. -- that no thorns can hurt someone whose own heart has become free of thorns. And fr someone who carries no burning passion in his heart, the whole earth is covered with a cloud of shade and he is never exposed to the scorching sun. And this is absolutely true.
Whatever your state of consciousness is, your life will also have the same quality. It is a wonder that when someone makes an effort to purify himself the whole world becomes a friendly place to him; and when someone is full of love the whole world showers its love on him. And this is the eternal truth: that someone who is full of hatred will receive hatred in return. Whatever we put out, all comes back to us. There is no other way, no alternative.
So for twenty-four hours a day try to remember those moments in your life that have been magical and sacred. Recall those few moments and try to make them the foundation of your life. And try to forget even the long periods of pain, sorrow, hatred and violence; they don't have any value. Let them fade away, just like the dry leaves fall from the trees, let go of all that is meaningful and alive. This process should go on continuously. There should be a flow of pure, beautiful thoughts in our mind, full of love and happiness.
Then, step by step, you will find that the things you remember seem to happen more often and that what you are always longing for will start appearing all around you. And then the world will appear in a totally different light. The same people will appear different: the same eyes, the same flower and the same stone will appear to have a different meaning...something we have never even thought of because we are engrossed in a totally different world.
So as I have said, remember what you have experienced in meditation -- the brightness, a ray, a little peace. Look after the small experiences that you have had just like a mother looks after her child. If you don't look after them they will die. The more valuable a thing is, the more need there is to take care of it. Animals also have children but they don't need much care; the less developed the animal, the less need there is to care for them. They take care of themselves. But on the ladder of evolution you will find that if a human child is not looked after properly it will not survive.
The higher the state of consciousness, the more protection is needed. The more precious the experience, the more care it requires. So even if you have only small experiences, look after them carefully.
You have asked how to take care of them? If I were to give you a few diamonds, how would you take care of them? If you were to find a valuable treasure, how would you take care of it? How would you keep it safe? Where would you keep it? You would want to hide it away; you would want to keep it close to your heart.
A beggar was dying in the hospital. When the priest visited him the doctors told him that he was going to die. So the priest went to him for his last rites. He told the beggar, "Fold your hands together."
But the beggar said, "Forgive me, but I cannot open one hand."
He was about to die and he could not open one of his hands. And a few moments later, he died. His hands were opened and they found a few dirty coins which he had collected. He had been holding, these in his fist... a few dity coins. He knew that he was going to die but he kept his hand closed.
You know how to take care of ordinary coins -- everyone know that -- but you don't know how to look after that which is the most valuable. And when the times comes for your fists to be opened there will be nothing in them except for a few dirty coins.
Protect these experiences.. they are the real coins. They may have inspired you, they may have given you fresh juice, they may have transformed something in you; somethings new may have been triggered in you, a longing for the ultimate may have arisen in you. So take care of them. I have explained both methods. If you go on experimenting with them you will understand.
Another friend has asked: Is sex a creative energy? How can the relationship between a husband and a wife be made creative?
This is an important question. There are very few people for whom this question will not be important.
There are only two types of people in this world: one type is the people who are suffering because of sex, and the other is the people who have transformed their sexual energy into love.
You will be surprised to know that sex and love are two opposite things. As love grows sex becomes less, and if love becomes less sex becomes more. The more loving you are the less sexual you will be: and if you are totally filled with love there will be nothing sexual inside you. But if there is no love, inside you everything will be sexual.
The transformation, the sublimation of sexual energy can only happen through love. This is why it is useless to try to suppress sex to get free of it. If you suppress it you can go insane. Of all the insane people in the world, ninety-nine out of a hundred have tried to repress their sexual energy. And you may be aware that as civilization has developed, insanity has increased because civilized society suppresses sex more than anything else.
Everyone suppresses his sexual energy. And that suppressed sexual energy creates insanity; it creates mental illnesses. Any attempt to suppress your sexual energy is in itself madness. Many of the so-called saints are in fact insane. And the only reason for this is that they have constantly tried to suppress their sexual energy; they don't know that sex should not be suppressed.
If the doors to love are opened, the energy that was flowing through sex will be transformed through the light of love. What had been the flames of passion will become the light of love. So let this love expand. Love is the creative use of sex.
Fill your life with love. But you will say, "We always love." And I tell you, you rarely love. You might be longing for love...and there is a vast difference between the two. To love and to need love are two very different things. Most of us remain like children all our lives because everyone is looking for love. To love is a very mysterious thing; to long for love is a very childish thing. Small children want love; when the mother gives them love they grow. They want love from others also and the family loves them. Then when they grow older, if they are husbands they want love from their wives, if they are wives they want love from their husbands, if they are wives they want love from their husbands. And who-ever wants love suffers because love cannot be asked for, love can only be given. In wanting there is no certainty that you will get it. And if the person from whom you expect love also expects love from you, it is a problem. It will be like two beggars meeting and begging together. All over the world there are marital problems between husbands and wives, and the only reason for this is that both expect love from each other but are unable to give love.
Think about this a little -- your constant need for love. You want someone to love you, and if someone loves you you feel good. But what you don't know is that the other loves you only because he wants you to love him. It is just like someone throwing bait to fish: he does not throw it for the fish to eat, he throws it to catch the fish. He does not want to give it to the fish, he only does not throw it for the fish to eat, he throws it to catch the fish. All the people that you see in love around you are only throwing bait to get love. They will throw the bait for a while, until the other person starts feeling that there is a possibility of getting love from this person. Then he too will start showing some love until eventually they realize that both of them are beggars. They have made a mistake: each had thought the other was an emperor. And in time each one realizes that he is not getting any love from the other, and that's when the friction starts.
That's why married life is thought to be hell, because you all want love but you don't know how to give it. This is the basic cause of all fights. As long as what I am saying does not happen, the relationship between a husband and a wife will never be harmonius, no matter what adjustments you make, no matter what kind of marriage you have, no matter what rules society makes. The only way to make it better is if you realize that love can only be given and not asked for. It can only be given. Whatever you receive is a blessing, it is not a reward for loving. Love is to be given and whatever you receive is just a blessing, it is not a reward. And even if you
don't receive anything you are always happy that you were able to give.
If the husband and wife were to start giving love instead of asking for it, life could become heaven for them. And this world is so mysterious that if they love more and stop asking for it, they will receive more love and experience this mystery. And the more they love the less they will be involved in sex.
Gandhi was visiting Sri Lanka with his wife, Kasturba. When Gandhi told the person who was to introduce him at the first function that Ba, his wife, was also with him, this person thought that Gandhi meant his mother. From the word ba, mother, he had taken it to mean that Gandhi's mother had also come with him. So introducing Gandhi he said, "It is a great privilege to have Gandhi here, and his mother is also here."
Ba was a bit surprised. Gandhi's secretary was also present, and he was afraid that he had made a mistake because he should have told the man who it was that was with Gandhi. He was afraid that Gandhi would be angry with him and feel insulted.
But what Gandhi said was quite amazing. He said, "The person who introduced me has by mistake said something true about me, because for a few years Ba has stopped being my wife and she has now become my mother.
A true Sanyasin is the one whose wife one day becomes his mother, and not the one who leaves his wife and runs away. A true sannyasin is the one whose husband one day becomes her son.
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