Dear Sambogakaya
You've taken the first step, admitting to yourself the pain of the broken trust and all the hurt and heartache that goes with it, and the next step is to "pack up" those feelings and trust yourself again.
Some people might advise you to confront that person with your pain but maybe exposing your pain to your offender is just regurgitating the pain , and ignoring him, pretending he didn't hurt you, would be just as bad.
It's your innerself, the spark of your spirit that makes you who you are, that needs your tender loving care to help get you through the next phase. Self love is the most important love, without that you can't heal.
Moving on is a way of controling the extent of the pain, and the passage of time is a healer too, even if you're in frequent contact with the person who hurt you.
Measure the extent of the pain you experienced against the extent of pleasure you get from the other people in the same places where you come across this person, your progress through the classes you attend, your expected achievements, the sharing and companionship with other students and friends elsewhere who understand the loss you are dealing with.
Read the original posting in this thread, especially the last sentence re "discern" and as you relate to this, the healing will come.
It's not baggage, it's reference material for future occasions. No one really gets over anything, they get through or around it, just another lessen in life to make it easier next time around, and our success with such journeys lies with our inner selves....nurture your spirit.

Gillian

Read the entry under Chakra....Silver Cords....by Aelis 2004, 16 August...a technique I've been practising over years to help come to terms with several incidents in my life though I wasn't aware of it's name.
Gillian

thank you gillian and I will read the siver cords thread
I just hope I get better soon....
it hurts sooo much and im sure you dont want to listen to a sob story...
but thank you for your advice and your opinions they helped me
and if you ever need help with anything feel free to ask