I know this is an older thread, but I feel that I am going through this right now (anger and feel stuck and hurt by ones who are suppose to love me)  and these posts have really helped me.  I am sooo wanting to calm myself and stop yelling.  I was soooo angry and didn't know how to control it.  There was reply to one of my posts saying to stop giving all my energy on my yelling and give all the energy to not yelling.  Seeing it worded that way triggered something for me and tho I just started this week with my journey, i feel a calm peace inside, I haven't felt in a looooong time.  I am letting go of all energy from anger and giving all my energy to be positive, i am calmer dealing with family members who have upset me very much.  I know it is a daily battle, but I got through yesterday feeling more hopeful than ever.

I have been practicing this too .... but you have to work on it everyday... wish there was a onetime solution

Most worthwhile endeavours to our own peace do not come easily.  Learning every day in every way to use our own energy, not to give it away to others, and empowering ourselves are the keys.  

When we are angry we give our energy away to the object of our anger.  We allow them to control us with our anger being our only recourse.  Using our energy to empower ourselves helps us grow stronger in our own right without others control over our feelings.

thanks spiritalk.... but how do you use your energy to empower yourself ?? I agree anything good in life will not be easy to achieve

I have just come through a very confusing time for me that ran the gamet of my emotions from disappointment to anger.  When I realized I was spinning my wheels and getting no where it occured to me to change the pattern of the thoughts to keep me grounded.

I put on some music I use for meditation circles - soft and mellow.  Then I did affirmations til my mind knew what it was to think.  Being out of control like that is so debilitating to the soul.  I was really grounded by the time the situation was resolved in the end anyway.

I had a meditation circle to do last night and doing this grounding, even before I had the answers to resolve the issues, was enough to help me keep my own self in check.  

Anger is an outplay from the confusions that reign in our life.  We don't even know who we are angry at, just that anger seems to be the most likely response.  Another thing I have often done is use color:

Red  = high energy, anger, emotions, can be visualized as an arrow coming straight at you to the solar plexus area


Add:  White = spirit, spirituality, high enlightenment,

At the same time turn the arrow around to return it to the source of your anger.  As the arrow flies it will be red + white = pink

Pink = love

You have turned any potential anger situation to love in the space of a visual.