How do i control my anger?, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 2 · Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 4:25 pm

dear angry one,
The root of anger is hurt or you have too much stress in your life.
The hurt would be an event or person that unfortunately did not treat you fairly. You have to come to terms with it. Second the best remedy is to start working out that anger, get yourself a punching bag or something that will release that negative energy. Also when you get stressed out,
take a walk or meditate. Get some relaxing music and take a fifiteen minute break and just BREATH. Find a peaceful place in your mind and stay there, in your car, in your room, focus on something you love,
flowers, the ocean, a special person, it will bring you peace. You have to divert your anger to something positive for yourself. SLOW DOWN!
Do good things for yourself, treat yourself to a massage, buy yourself some flowers, take yourself out to a special place and enjoy it. You must fill your soul with things that you love to do or see. The anger will leave you. Do you understand this?

Posts: 8526 · Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 7:32 pm

hello heidichristian,
that was really nice of u. its like one day i feel better and the next day i am down in the dumps:(. i too want to remove all this negative energy from within me. thats why i have started working more so that i just drop dead asleep:) how do u come to terms with things when someone u love hurts u damn badly? i am trying to overcome this hurt as i feel love can help u solve a lot of things. i tell myself at the end of the day i have to happy, to hell with everyone else. but that doesnt work too. but i have realised that if i am not happy or make my best attempt to take things as they come, i shall b filled with bitterness which is one thing i dont want. so i guess i am only left with one option to come to terms with things... but how:)
swetha

Posts: 5114 · Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 2:26 pm

Swethaji,

Anger is a normal phenomenon but it does cause harm to our system. Since we are normal human beings we will get angry. Due to anger the cells in our body get disturbed. I have already posted 5 chapters on Thought Power and it is written in it what happens when you get angry. Now to control anger and rise above normal human beings you have to do something which is above the normal human being.

If you love good music there are very old soulful songs of Lata Mangeshkar, Mohammad Rafi, Mukesh etc. etc. Old Lories or Flute music of Hari Prasad Chaurasia or Shehnai of Bismillah Khan. If you love flowers and greenery and go out to the park and take a stroll there. There are laughing clubs all over the country. Surely you must be having one near your neighbourhood. Just join them and laugh out louder and louder. The toxins accumulated inside will go away. Any blockage anywhere in the body, cells will get cleared and you will absolutely normal. We laught in laughter club absolutely at nothing in various ways. The theme is to release the pressures inside.

It is like this. You have dirty clothes. What do you do? Wash it. By Anger we accumulate dirt inside which is to be washed away. This dirt is nothing but toxins that have to be washed away. You have to clean your whole body from inside.

You like this forum and this forum is so beautiful. Think about this forum. Develop it further. Contribute to it so much that when you are over in the night you simply Drop Dead on your Bedding. I mean figuratively and not literarily. A person having the soundest sleep will always remain happy as the sleep is the best nature's medicine given by God to us.

If you like singing, sing songs melodious or bhajans or do you aarti daily in the morning and evening. The purpose is to divert your attention to something pleasant.

Pravin Kumar

Posts: 8526 · Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 3:46 pm

thank u Pravinji,
I have been following ur advice and have felt much better. i have started meditation and breathing exercises.... and it does give me mental peace. I guess I have beeen doing lot of constructive things these past few days than i have done in a long time.
I agree I have to remove the anger and the best way is to divert. So i work, read a lot, listen to music. I am normal in every way but that hurt inside me is still lingering. i understood when u told me that keeping that feeling inside me wont help me , but will just make me develop a bitterness towards life...and i dont want that to happen at any cost . yesterday i went for a long walk..thought about what is going on with my life. I want to throw away the anger like dirty linen. but how do i come to terms with the feeling of hurt? i always tend to look at the positive aspects of people but....even that doesnt seem to help. I have felt much better than before. but feel it will b sometime before i can make myself free frm these depressive thoughts. and mayb time is the only healer with some help frm my side:)
swetha

Posts: 318 · Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 3:50 pm

Hi swetha,

Anger was the most difficult emotion for me to deal with. My feelings of betrayal, hurt feelings, and the feeling life in general was NOT fair, got me into a clinical depression many years ago. Anger turned inward is depression! I did not know that. I was asked the question, 'Who ever told me that 'life' was going to be FAIR?' That was my own perception, no one ever told me that. LIFE is NOT FAIR!

I finally ended up in a womans therapy group, and on anti-depressant medication to begin to heal. Talking to others, who had experienced far more pain than I had in life, and learning other people had the same feelings of rage and sorrow that I did, was a healthy beginning.

It is hard to make suggestions across countries and cultural boundries, but I will try. Do you have any 'Anger Management' groups that meet in your area? That you might attend? (The first step is the hardest. . .) Are any listed in your newspapers? Or 'counseling groups', for anger or depression, with whatever spiritual or religious associations you might be connected to?

Although most all of the answers are within ourselves to everything, spiritual guidance included, sometimes it is wise to reach out for some guidance from a professional is a clear beginning.

The hardest thing I ever did was to clear and 'let go' of some of this 'old baggage' I was carrying around! After that was worked on, spiritually I got to understand 'unconditional love' and how to allow my loved ones to be 'who they are' without any judgements about them from me. It is a long process to accomplish!

I do know that my anger was making me physically, spiritually, and emotionally ill! I do not react to people or situations today, and I feel good about that. It does take vigilant work, however. . . Today If I let someone to push that ANGER button from the past, I immediately step back and 'let it go'. If I even start to react, I will feel sick for a day or two. I can NOT afford any ANGER. . .

I wish for you that since you have acknowledged your anger/depression that you have success in working through it. Peace!