Awesome!
This is completely and utterly FAB!!  
Thank you so much for taking the time to type this all out.
I am def interested in what more he has to say.


This reminds me of this:
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"Fear

Has anyone really given thought to your current conditionings?

What are your conditionings about?

Relationships –  

   That relationships have certain rules? Like I belong to him/her and only him/her.

   Can only be in a relationship with one person? If I’m a good friend then I expect them to be a good friend. I am a good child because I give my parents no hassles?

Sex –

   A good sex life is when both partners both have an orgasm. I’ll only know what I’m doing if I sleep with as many ppl as possible? Tame sex/ Extreme sex what are those really? No sex before marriage.

Love –

   That it is conditional, that you have to earn it, that it doesn’t exist, that it does!

   That is only just a word. Love is for wimps.

Weakness –

   I am weak if I don’t have a backbone, I am weak if I don’t live up to my expectations, I am weak because I can’t do this or that. I am weak cuz I am small/big.

Rewards –

   If I do something ‘good’ then I should be rewarded, he/she worked hard and deserved that.

Good/Bad-

   What is good, what is actually bad? That is just a conditioning through and through.

Unhappiness –

   I am unhappy because of this or that…

People having power over one –

   I couldn’t do anything, they just had so much power over me, but they are family how could I not listen? But but but…

Religion –

   that goes on forever….

Who decided these conditionings, did you decide them all? Or did your friends, family, media, dreams……Fear decide them for you?

Fear feeds on conditioning.

Say being unhappy. That is a choice! So weird I know! I was once in a relationship with someone like that and it used to bug the living hell out of me! I would get so pissed off and unhappy because he wasn’t doing the things I wanted him to be doing, living to my conditionings.

He would just look as me and say okay I’ve heard what you’ve said, but I’ve chosen to be happy. You’ve chosen to be unhappy and allow this to mess up your day. URG!!!!!

People having power over you, a choice! Nothing can touch you unless you let it.
Weakness, taught, shown to me by my own perceived limitations in accordance to others.

Maybe I shouldn’t bring this into the conversation but it fits so brilliantly,
“So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

Why the hell not!
Your limitations are created by you. And no one else.
You can say but, but, but this that. But seriously. Take responsibility.

What about the kids in the squatter camps, they have no choice where they were born and into what circumstances..
Yes they had no choice where they were born, (wait actually they did. We choose our parents. Part of our birth vision. Read the 10th Insight- James Redfield)
They can either choose to carry on living under those conditions or they can get out.

Fear becomes this huge fiery vortex that is just too damn scary to face. It looms up in front of you; you get scared just looking at it! So it grows.

Face the fear. Walk on straight through. If you think it’s gonna burn you then it prob will. Cause that the little voice of fear in your head is stopping you. If there is any doubt then it, the fear, will find it and fuel on it.

When you face your fear it will certainly face you.
Squarely.

It will throw anything and everything at you!
Just laugh and shout BRING IT ON!
Because in essence you created it so you can uncreate it!
Just with a thought and intention.
But we like torturing ourselves! Heehee
Cause we are actually facing ourselves.
Yin and Yang.
Crazy hey!
LOVE & LAUGHTER

(You can really push the envelope on this one.)
P.S. Fear is the easy way out…heehee "
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Wonderful discussion!
RR

Continuation of my previous post:-


The following process offers a way to help us achieve mastery over our fears:

TECHNIQUE

1. Introspection
2. Spiritual practice
3. Grace
4. Mastery

1. INTROSPECTION
To gain soul-peace, we need to identify our fear whether it presents itself directly or in disguise. We may experience fear directly as an increase in heart rate, respiratory rate, tremors, butterflies in the stomach, dry mouth, or a feeling of impending doom.

Fear can also manifest indirectly as anger, rigid beliefs, self-importance, domination, aggression, or addiction. To get to deeper states of peace, we need to face these hidden fears. We can start by unmasking our defenses through introspection. Then we are in direct contact with our fear.

To unmask the defenses that cover your fear, retreat to a quiet place. Practice deep breathing and meditation to achieve stillness. Go deep. Ask your subconscious and Higher Power to guide you to your hidden fears. Be patient. Listen for the soft voice within. Let nothing stand in the way of the truth. Eventually, you will realize that fear is hiding behind your many defenses.

2. SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
Fear is a difficult emotion to master, but we can do it. We can become masters of fear if we face it. We must stand our ground, step into the fear, and stare it down. This is difficult, painful, and requires long-term practice. With persistence and perseverance, we can slowly reduce our fears, expand our peace, and eventually reach the permanent peace of the soul. As soon as you become aware of fear, practice one or a combination of the following techniques:

a. Breathe: Practice deep abdominal breathing.

b. Progressive muscle relaxation: We can tense and relax our muscles as described in Chapter 12.

c. Affirmations: We can affirm the existence of the immutable peace of the soul even if we do not feel it. We might also practice affirmations related to strength, courage, heroism, endurance, faith, trust, belief, confidence, power, and immortality.

d. Visualize: We can picture ourselves in fearless peace even as we go through our trial.

e. Mindfulness: Mindfulness practice helps us surrender into the moment, take a stand, and hold our ground. We are awake, aware, and ready for anything. This is the stance of a spiritual warrior.

f. Meditation: In the stillness of deep meditation, the peace of God dissolves all traces of fear.

g. Activities: When afraid, we can distract ourselves by engaging in constructive meaningful activity, such as recreation, socialization, the arts, and hobbies. We can practice these or other methods described in this book in any comfortable combination. We persevere, fight our battle with courage, and do our best. While we do our part, we can get additional help by turning to our Higher Power, a bottomless source of strength. To make contact with our Higher Power, select an image, practice the presence of God, pray, and have faith.


h. Select an image: We can choose an image such as Father, Mother, Buddha, Krishna, Christ, and so on. The image is symbolic of God’s benevolence. We can make our attachment to the image stronger than the fear that confronts us. We can apply all of our will, thought, feeling, and concentration to our image. We hold on to the image
as the waves of fear move through our being. If the image is swept away, we bring it back.

i. Practice the presence of God: God is Omnipresent peace. In the face of our fear, we can practice the presence of God as the immutable peace within ourselves. It is there, just underneath the stormy weather.

j. Prayer: We can talk to God and ask for help. We can tell Her that we want to experience the changeless peace of the soul.

k. Faith: We can have faith in the Omnipotent healing power of God. She is there, helping and guiding. She cannot fail.

3. GRACE
When we do our part, grace flows. We realize God is here, helping, potecting, guiding, and caring. God’s power is infinitely greater than our fear. On Her schedule, she comes to our rescue. The turbulent waves of fear subside. Peace comes.

4. MASTERY
When fear returns, we continue our spiritual practice. Slowly, we gain confidence and trust as we realize our effort, combined with God’s grace, can get us through anything. At mastery, we move forward fearlessly because we know God is there, taking us to safety. Here nothing can touch us, nothing can harm us, and nothing can ruffle us. We are fearless peace.

To be continued