Well....to be parents are not the same as being "fit" to it.

To me it sounds like they put way to much pressure on you, which are not good, because in a way they transfer their own insecurity over on you.

You are still way to young to carry their burdens, and I feel very sorry for you.

On the other hand, I am also sure your parents love you, they might see you as "adult", and in their "eager" to please you, they might ask those questions from you.

I think you shall say; If you both have felt grown-up enough to get me...then I also think you both are grown-up enough to take the decisions about how you will live, I will still love you both, but this is something you two must fix!

I think you shall try to think less on your parents, and a bit more on yourself....this I say because I can see you are speculating a lot around around them, and that downgrade your own life quality.

Love them...but say to yourself that this is something they have to fix...you can't live their life....you can't fix their life.....you can only support them....and that is all.

For your parents to keep together just to please the kids, is may times a slimmer option then to take a brake, because even if a brake hurt, such insecurity make it so much harder on all parts, and it is seldom it will be fixed.

So another big Grandpa huggg....try to relax....try to clear your mind for these things....enjoy your youth....the hardship comes fast enough so don't carry others burden, even if you love them!

You're so right!!! Thanks for the advice.

i didn't read the others so sorry if i repeat anything. i bet i will.
so this may not need to be said, but I guess it's like a survey and it's nice to hear more of the same opinions so here it goes!
you want to believe him, right?
so do it.
because all in all !! It's best the truth is kept in. and you know that when you do something stupid you wish no one will know because you don't want a part of you that you wish to be hidden, to be visible to the whole world.
just make peace with it.
it may take some time, but even if it were true... you must tell yourself how you could forgive him. because even if it isn't true... you're going to suffer over even the idea, and the only lesson here is ~ Are you going to be able to forgive him??
And you will keep feeling this way, until you realize what he means to you, and what he did, really is just what life is.