I AM A 22 YEAR OLD GUY BORN ON 9/10/1987... I AM IN LOVE WITH A 20 YEAR OLD GIRL BORN ON 02/02/1990... I=SHE IS MY CHILDHOOD FRIEND AND I FELL IN LOVE WITH HER THREE YEARS AGO... AFTER LOTS OF NO SHE HAS FINALLY AGREED TO MARRY ME... THE PROBLEM IS ALTHOUGH SHE HAS AGREED SHE DOESN'T EXPRESS HER LOVE TO ME... SHE CARES FOR ME NO DOUBT AND SHE LIKES ME TOO BUT SHE HASN'T SAID I LOVE YOU TO ME IN THESE 3 YEARS... SHE COMES TO MEET ME ALMOST DAILY AT MY SHOP EVEN THOUGH I HAVE TOLD HER NOT TO TAKE THE TROUBLE SO I KNOW SHE HAS IT IN HER... NOW SOME CAN HELP ME HOW DO I GET HER TO EXPRESS HER FEELINGS...

Jimmy Jimmy Jimmy

She is obviously devoted to you, coming to your shop almost daily.  I think you need to approach this from not just your point of view, but hers.

I mean to some people (such as me) expressing feelings of love comes easy.  Saying I love you is easy, and comes frequently accompanied with flowers, chocolates, or whatever her heart desires.  But I also recognise that for others this is something expressed only in rarer occasions.  For me, my expressions can become meaningless if I don't control it, as it becomes a shower of love and praise.  It becomes normal and loses its power.  Whereas considering how she restricts when she does express these feelings, it adds that much more meaning and power when she does express it.

If she did express this to you once, would this satisfy you, or would you need to hear it again?  If she expressed it because you annoyed her about it that much she eventually capitulated, would that mean anything to you, or would it mean more to you if you left her to decide to express these feelings, and she came to you and expressed this genuinely and sincerely.

My point is, I think rather than 'getting her to express her feelings' you need to understand how significant such an expression is to her, and respect her for who she is.  If you do this when she does express her feelings for you it will be that much more meaningful and powerful to both of you.  But I also feel you could express how much it would mean to you to hear this from her, perhaps just tell her this once, and leave it at that.

That is my advice anyhow, make of it what you will.

Best of luck with it all, and congratulations on the up and coming wedding.

Kind regards,
Rook

he he. i've heard love causes love. hatred inspires more of that. violence can sow the seeds of stronger violence. What do you think Jimmyh? isn't love something like that? express your love or exultations in all the ways possible. if honesty does not do, go train yourself about how to show your love. you will really know the tricks. and, they are sure to work. if not for her, it will definitely work when your girlfriend's best friend may pity you just to see you making so much of efforts. so, carry on. a show does work all the time. don't you see what you YOURSELF are expecting?

showing her how much i love her is done long ago dude... i was a pre final year Electronics B.E student and one of the topers in the class. but i knew long distant relation wont work out... so i quit my studies and came to her city.... now i am in a totally different field of graphics designing... although quiting B.E didn't stop me from making up a financial status but i left my dream of becoming a engineer for her and she knows that very well... i keep telling her how much i love her and listen to almost every thing of hers... what else to do say....

sweetie here is a huge hug....much love and huggies