Hi to all,
Don't know how to tackle my love and marriage life stituation.

Here it goes...I am enagaged and planning to marriage in June this year.

3 years back I met with my fiancee and as time passed we fall in love and decided to marry.We promised each other that we will not leave each other in any situation. Also, both the familes, her parents and my parents, are happy and agreed.

I have met her 10-15 times in this period as I am outside of India all the time. I met her as and when time permits and sometime when we plan. So most of our conversation happens over phone.


But now from last 9-10 months don't know and she is behaving very badly to me.
Also, she says that she doesn't want to marry me and I am not the one with whom she enjoys the company.
Even she doesn't get that husband feeling and sometime she cries, sometime she gets angry in case of romantic talk.  Seriously I dont understand the situation now.


Next day she will say she loves me, some time after 3-4 days she will say she loves me but in a different tone and she crys. Then everything will be good if nothing happened.

Again she will say sometime that she doesn't love me.

Sometime she says she just want to be my friend.

I have a felling that she is attarcted to some one else but whenever I ask this she gets angry to me and blames me that I am doubting her.

I fell like I am helpless and God should help me to come over this situation.

Asro Gurus, please help me if you can.

In case you need birth details here it is.

Mine

Name : B K
DOB  : 12-02-1979
Place of Birth : Patna, Bihar
Time of Birth : 05:20 (Around)


Hers
Name : D C
DOB  : 21-02-1984
Place of Birth : Jharia, Bihar, Jharkhand (Now)
Time of Birth : 18:15

Please also let me know in case if something bad is going to happend to our relationship, but I want to save and make it our best relation.

sweetie here is a huge hug....much love and huggies

ha ha! I cannot help laughing reading your post. you really deserve a hug. here is one for you.

first i see your feel 'helpless' and that too emotionally! well i could manage to suppress my gigle with some composed serious situation. it didn't work when I came to know that you are planning marriage with 10 - 15 meetings in 3 years! well, i don't mean that you need 100 - 150 of them before you think of marriage. but i think you understand what i mean. this time i pressed my cup of coffee harder with my teeth to do the trick of not laughing, especially when you are in 'i need a hug' platform. but i just burst into laughter to know about the Promise not to 'leave each other in any situation'.

you really need a hug dear. here is another for you.

ARE YOU NUTS, OR WHAT?

decide what you want. to be in it, or not. when do you think you are going to 'activate' your 'promise'? after marriage? for sure, if this is your attitude, i don't think you are one, any girl would like to marry. is it a compulsion on you to be outside India? if really so, how come that 3 years have passed and you have managed to do nothing that could take her to you and be with you? are you really interested?    

it appears, rather it is clear, that you think too much, and most probably, do nothing, while she feels too much.

if you really want to save what you call a promised relationship, do what it needs to be done. better stop thinking, at least in the ways you have done so far. if you can't think anything out, confess it before her, tell her the ways you've felt, and ask what she feels necessary for things getting all right.

Here is a hug for you. - not of compassion for the helpless. it's one wishing you all the best.

staying away wont help buddy.... i am sorry to say long distant relations wont work out... so instead of tackling situation and your love on phone give her a surprise visit.... it will give you a solution...go in front of her all of a sudden... if she is happy seeing you she still love s you... but seeing you all of a sudden she gets shocked and goes dumb and asks you what u are doing here then buddy sorry to say but she doesn't love you any more... its personal experience buddy i passed it lets see if u pass which i would wish or fail... all the best