My life is @ a crossroads. I am married with one 7 year old son. I have put in a lot of effort into my relationship with my wife since day 1. However, I was never no 1 for her and where important, I feel she didnt come thru for me. Our relationship soured to the extent that I moved out. I did move back in after a while for the sake of my son (a mistake I think).

Anyway, I met someone. I know that I can be happy again. I am now in between whether I should continue on the same relationship, which, in my heart, I know will never make me happy, or do I close this out, and embark on a new journey, which may give me another shot @ happiness.

Need a hug (more than one is welcome

I say follow your heart.
Hug! (x1,000,000,000)

You are 39 Years old and want to have a poll regarding your marriage?
I took the liberty to remove the poll, but my impression of you stay.

A marriage is build on mutual respect for each other, and the will for both to see it through, to give and take, and support each other.

You say you have put in a lot of effort...even from day one?  why did you marriage this woman? Do you listen to yourself at all?

Why did your wife marry you? are you rich? or did you have to marry?

My questions might seems a bit harsh, but my feeling is that you are thinking a bit to much on yourself, and try to put all blame on your wife.

After all you have married her, normally marrying, is only done when people love each other, and then one don't need to put up an effort from day one.

I further think that it was your choice to move out for a while, and to ask for forgiveness when it didn't work out, I don't think you would have accepted the same from her.

I think you shall divorce her, and let her get a new chance for happiness.
You shall not let your child be the glue that hold you together, because that will harm him more...he need harmony, and not parents that aren't happy together.
I hope you both are grown enough to part as friends, because that benefit your boy, who is the innocent part of this drama.

My Big Grandpa Hug goes to him!

To tell the truth, I thought I was a bit though to our new member, and I expected a complain, but I hoped that I would be an wake up call.

I got a PM from him today, and that is why I post this now, because he acted in a way I respect, and for that I give him a Hug!
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Hey,

Thanks for the brutally frank kick I guess I needed this wake up call.

You are right about the fact that I should not obsess about what went wrong, and point fingers.

I guess all screw ups start with myself also.

Will look within for answers.

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