The Law of Attraction..what you fear and worry about the most, is what you bring into your life.  So whatever your fear is about this relationship, if you want that to happen...keep worrying..keep fearing.  It will eventually come true.  Then you get to say 'I told you so."  But, if you want to sit back, relax and enjoy it, then do that.

You sound like you are an Angel looking for your light.  you are obviously interested in the esoteric, hence your being on this board.  If you have studied at all you will know that doubt and vacillation are a result of our ego or lower self.  As is judging a group (men) by one of it's members- your comment you were cheated on in the past.  

It really seems like what you want is to pursue something with this new man, yet your holding the idea of a previous individual and what he did, as well as your interest in the physical, is holding you back.  What harm will come of seeing what would happen if you proceed?

I would also suggest that you seek a way to advance your consciousness towards your hiher self, such as meditation.  This can remove alot of the hang ups with the physical and lower self.

Good luck on your journey, may it be filled with enlightenment and ambrosia for your soul!

You learn to re-write your 'history'.  You can change the outcome of this experience for yourself.  Good luck!