Thank you all for your kind and wise words and also for your hugs.....Its a big help....thanks again.

I do have some negative habits for which i cant find any positive replacement....like i,m a smoker....what thought or positive affirmation should i used to replace this negative habits....like a member here says  



This is true to me but how will i replace the thought of smoking a cigarette ....what is the replacement for this thought....most of the time i say to myself"i never smoke or i never wanna smoke or i,m never a smoker"

how should i program myself to get rid of this habit ....what affirmation should i used for such habits or addiction to get rid off....

then i,m also addicted to porn and i have no idea what affirmation i should use for it......i,m also addicted to masturbation.....sorry for being so open but believe me i,m tired of these habits of mine and most of the time i,m clueless about how i respond to them.....i don,t talk about them with any one and honestly i,m ashamed of all of them and i want out....

but how...what should be my response to all these negative programing...how to replace it with a good one.......

I want to respect myself and love myself but its just that most of the time i find myself to be a pandora box filled with just problems.....help plz

I have 2 positive affirmations.  But first, forgive yourself for what you feel are 'shortcomings'.    Love yourself and who you are. It is all a journey and path to self discovery.  Learn lessons along the way.  'Addictions' of any form are what people choose to numb pain.  Ask yourself, what pain are you numbing?  What can you learn from it?    Do you need to volunteer to cultivate more productive and meaningful relationships?  Develop a more creative hobby?  Do you need to make amends with some family & friends?  Choose a more rewarding career?

Positive Affirmation #1 for smoking.  "I choose to love myself, and choose a healthy lifestyle."

Positive Affirmation #2 for addiction.  Before you do anything, ask yourself...."Is this action, loving me?  Is what I am doing, taking care of me?"  "I choose love."

At any time, if the answer is 'no' to the question, is this action loving me, then stop and choose an action where the answer is yes.  Take a walk...ask yourself "Is this walk loving me?  Does this take care of me?"  Of course a walk does!

This can be done for anything...food, drink, bad habits, relationships, etc.  Love and take care of yourself FIRST!  Ask, "Is this action, loving me?"

I'd like to suggest you try Bach flower essences.
They help wonderfully, they're entirely natural and they are quite effective!

They have no side-effects and are very gentle in their action.
I've never seen them fail.

So please DO give the flower essences a try.

sweetie here is a huge hug....much love and huggies

My goodness, well the best advice I can give to you is to neutralize your energy, insyead of saying " I have all of this negativity" try viewing it simply as excess energy. If you find a positive outlet for this energy then things may begin to improve. Please keep in mind we ALL have the right to happiness and success!!!